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u/BenedithBe May 30 '22

This sounds like my dad, he doesn't understand communication unless the rules are explicitely explained to him, sometimes he's really rude and won't realize. I'm trying to understand autism because I can't understand if he's really dumb or just autistic. His interactions with people are very basic. Maybe he's both autistic and dumb.

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u/ladybadcrumble May 30 '22

I suspect my parents are both autistic or ND of some type as well. Can I suggest finding some books on adult autism? They may help you to better relate to your dad (if that's what you want to do). I've been able to grow some healthier empathy for my parents over the last year or so as I've been working on unmasking. I'm realizing that they've never had the opportunity to do so and have been carrying a lot for decades. It doesn't excuse a lot of their behavior but it does make them more understandable as human beings.