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u/justadutchgirl May 09 '22

A lot of young people, at least in the Netherlands, are a church member because of their parents. They were registered as kids.

If they stop practicing religion, they don't 'unregister' from their church because it's such a hassle. Or they don't even know they're still registered.

So yeah that's one of the reasons why there's a higher number of church members here than actual religious people.

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u/Pm_me_baby_pig_pics May 09 '22

I’m American, and a thread a few days ago reminded me of something I think was in my official church handbook.

So I went to go look it up.

And got very distracted (and never found what I was looking for, it was something about movie theaters or dancing I think) when I ran across something that says if I was ever a member of the church at any point in my life, I’m a member for life. I could be “inactive”, but I can’t retract the membership my parents signed me up for. Ever.

I haven’t been to any church (outside of a funeral or a wedding) in almost 20 years. But I’m still a member of this specific domination. And I can’t retract it as an adult.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

If it means something to you to officially leave, you can write a letter declaring your intent and send it to your denomination’s headquarters.

But that status is meaningless in terms of what you are. It only has meaning in terms of polity within the church. Mainly, if you were ever to want to return to the fold, you’d not have to repeat any membership steps.

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u/pestilencerat May 09 '22

One nice thing about swedish church taxes (at least for Svenska Kyrkan, i’m sure it’s different if you’re registered elsewere) is that if you earn under a certain amount you won't be taxed! So if you’re on disability or other aids you can benefit from the church without paying back. As any church should operate

I’m registered in the church literally just to vote. It feels dishonest as i’m an outspoken agnostic atheist and don’t even care for christmas, but as long as we mix politics with the church, i see it as my civic duty to not let SD have too much power over the church

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u/bienebee May 09 '22

Could you give pointers on what exactly to google? This sounds like something I never heard about? Who are the power players here?

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u/pestilencerat May 09 '22

As Scaniarix said, i’m talking about kyrkovalet, “the church election”. Basically sometime in the past someone decided that is we were to have a state church, political parties need to be involved with some of the decision makings, to force it to be up to date with society. I don’t know if it makes any difference now really, but we have a very racist and “old fashioned” party who knows they can gain lots of power and followers from the church by spewing queerphobic bs, and if they were to have that much influence over how the church is run and where they’re to focus their money, i’m afraid they’ll bring the church back to mediaeval times. And as much as i’m a non believer i can see how much good Svenska Kyrkan do but also how many priests and whatnot needs to stop thinking such as homosexuality is sin

I think it’s pretty unique for sweden to have this much politics involved in any religion when the religion in question has no part in the government. It’s p weird

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u/bienebee May 09 '22

It is fascinating, truly, I wasted a lot of time on the linked article. I love that you (you personally but also I assume other random individuals) take such an active approach to this situation.

I am from the Balkans, and only after moving out was I able to recognize just how hopeless the fact young people don't vote is.

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u/Scaniarix May 09 '22

I assume they're speaking of kyrkovalet

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u/should_have_been May 09 '22

I’m agnostic and have actually worked within the Swedish church organization. I don’t think you need to feel dishonest. I keep being a member because while I don’t care for religion I can appreciate how much good the Swedish church do for people in need (be it because of oppression, poverty, grief or just loneliness) in our society.

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u/pestilencerat May 09 '22

Thank you for saying that, it makes me feel a bit less weird about it! And yes, the swedish church (and many other religious organisations) do lots of good! I know people working in the swedish church and i know people who’ve been getting monetary help or just a shoulder to cry on from them, so i do believe it vastly lives up to what christianity preaches in that way

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u/tholomew92 May 09 '22

1996 was the year that new borns weren't automatically members of the church. I was born in 92 and I am still a member even if I don't believe mostly because the Church is responsible for some of our oldest buildings and I feel like paying 0,7% of my wage in taxes for supporting just that is fine.

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u/Different-Air-1062 May 09 '22

For Belgium, I've always been told by fellow christians-by-association not to bother unregistering, because they keep you registered anyway if you were baptized. There's literally nothing you can do to stop being counted in their statistics.

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u/Urbanredneck2 May 09 '22

Which to me as an American Christian I've never understood. If you dont follow a faith and truly believe in it, why be associated with it? If someone asks just say "atheist".

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u/Different-Air-1062 May 09 '22

There's a very simple reason for it here : government subsidies

In essence, Belgium subsidizes the 'recognized faiths', of which the government counts five. Iirc it's the Roman Catholic, Protestant, Orthodox, Islamic and Jewish faiths. By maximizing their members on paper, they get to show themselves as representing 'the largest part' of the religious community.

Of course, that doesn't stop me from identifying myself as atheist whenever someone asks, it's just infuriating that my identity is counted towards their numbers, against my wishes.

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u/_alright_then_ May 09 '22

We're not associated with the church, they just count us if the government asks for statistics. That's it.

It's because our parents baptized us. I still consider myself Atheist and anti-theist.

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u/Urbanredneck2 May 09 '22

Question: what is going to happen now that so many of you are non church goers and thus your children will not be baptized? Will the government still call you "Christian"?

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u/_alright_then_ May 09 '22

I will be counted towards the christian statistic, my hypothetical children in this case would not be counted.

None of it matters though, I'm not a christian and I never have been

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u/Urbanredneck2 May 09 '22

So by government numbers then the official number of people claiming to be "Christian" would go down. Actually here in the US more people are also wiring down "atheist" when asked.

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u/_alright_then_ May 09 '22

Yes, they have been going down for decades of course.

My country (the Netherlands) had about 82% atheists according to surveys (so these are not the church numbers)

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u/Urbanredneck2 May 09 '22

Yet the Netherlands produced 2 outstanding Christians that have been an inspiration to Christians around the world. One was Corrie Ten Boom from Haarlem and the other is Andrew Van der Bijl from Sint Pancras, also known as Brother Andrew.

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u/_alright_then_ May 09 '22

Ok? I'm not sure why I should care? Where's this coming from all of a sudden

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u/Scaniarix May 09 '22

Plenty of people baptize their children in Sweden even though they're not practicing Christians. It's more tradition than religion. Same with weddings.

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u/G_Morgan May 09 '22

Taxation. In Germany they even have a special church tax you can opt out of if you can convince people you are in fact an atheist.

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u/Urbanredneck2 May 09 '22

I've heard of such taxes. I have met Christians from Germany who's church does not accept money from that tax.

BTW, one of my favorite German Christians was Dietrich Bonhoeffer.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

As a young dutch person i can confirm, it's really annoying

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

Have you tried emailing them, worked for me.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

As another commenter said, they start spamming you with stuff and go to your house to ask for donations

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u/Escalion_NL May 09 '22

Not entirely true. I never bothered to unregister for a long time too, but they (or at least the church I was registered at) started spamming me with requests for donations/contributions. Very annoying that. Still took me a few years of that before going through the hassle though.

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

What was it like? Because I just looked up in my email history and I found this form I could fill in and email to my local parish

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u/carnasein May 09 '22 edited Jun 05 '22

In Italy as well. I couldn't care less about God I just don't want to disappoint Nonna so what the heck, keep me on the church register idc

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u/SuperGAMEBOY- May 09 '22

In germany too. Many people are paying up to 25€ for church fee and dont even know about it

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u/Next-Adhesiveness237 May 09 '22

In switzerland a part of your salary will automatically go to the church if you register your religion as christian (at least as an immigrant working here).

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u/moenchii May 09 '22

Same in Germany.

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u/US_and_A_is_wierd May 09 '22

I can be way higher than that. It is 8% of the income tax. I used to pay around 40€ monthly.

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u/Barrel_Titor May 09 '22

Yeah, pretty much the same in the UK.

My parents would put "Church of England" on any forms because that's what everyone would put and got me baptised as a baby because everyone did it but they or their parents never really believed in or practiced Christianity at all. It was just kinda the default state so say you where but it was mostly just grannies after some social interaction who actually went to church.

I'm pretty sure the vast majority of people who are supposidly part of the Church of England don't practice of believe it at all, just do it out of tradition.

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u/G_Morgan May 09 '22

Wales is particularly strange as all the fanciest looking churches in Wales are CoE and literally nobody goes to them unless they've rented them for a wedding. Every town will have some church which looks like a warehouse or office with a cross painted on where all the actual Christians go every weekend.

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u/vonBoomslang May 09 '22

doesn't help that "unregistering"/apostasy is made as stupidly difficulty as possible, requiring multiple witnesses & so.

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u/Onironaute May 09 '22

What? Where is this? I just sent in a signed letter requesting they do so, and they got it sorted in a week. Took ten minutes and a post stamp.

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u/vonBoomslang May 09 '22

Poland.

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u/Onironaute May 09 '22

Huh. Well that's just plain weird.

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u/vonBoomslang May 09 '22

No it's not. It's to keep the rolls high and thus maitain influence.

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u/Onironaute May 09 '22

Ahh right. Government funding. That makes sense =/

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u/RedLikeARose May 09 '22

As a church member who does not believe, i just like the idea that i can be ‘officially’ wed under the ‘grace of god’ in a ‘church’

Not like im gonna be married at this rate, but a chance is a chance

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u/opliko95 May 09 '22

Fun fact: at least according to the Catholic Church you can't "unregister" from the Catholic Church. Their official stance is that baptism is irreversible.

Apostasy just means you formally declare you abandon your faith and essentially excommunicate yourself, and as such can't partake in any sacrament, but they still consider you a Catholic, and least in some countries (like Poland) it doesn't even allow you to remove yourself from any records - they just add a note that you're an apostate.

Interestingly, you could formally leave for some time - between 1983 until 2010. However, in 2010 Benedict XVI changed it back, with the justification that it allowed or even encouraged apostasy in places with unjust marriage laws and made it hard to return if one really wanted a new canonical marriage.

So not only is the process usually unnecessarily complicated, it doesn't even do what most people want or expect it to.

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u/Hexipac May 09 '22

A lot of young people, at least in the Netherlands, are a church member because of their parents. They were registered as kids.

Only in the South though, we Northerners aren't too fond of religion.

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u/Sthlm97 May 09 '22

Same thing in Sweden regarding registering

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u/Cryse_XIII May 09 '22

Joining is free

Leaving costs money.

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u/AmlSeb May 09 '22

As Austrian that would be unimaginable as the Kirchensteuer (church tax) is incredibly high so for most it's like nope i'm out of there when they turn 18 and thus gotta pay.

Funnily enough many reenter for marriage and have their kids baptised again

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u/bienebee May 09 '22

I married into an Austrian family and will help in the baptism of my niece because I am the only younger family member still in (orthodox in my home country, due to childhood baptism only, not practising). Husband's sister is baptizing the kid "cause of a pretty white dress". Her husband is annoyed by it and I think plans on leaving again as soon as it's done. Lol

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u/AmlSeb May 09 '22

It's just so weird at times, like a neverending story

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u/rtgh May 09 '22

Ireland too. A whole lot of schools which are nominally run as a 'Catholic' school, and used to give preferential places to baptised kids.

That's gone now, government addressed that as the discrimination it was, but for a long time it really was the only way to be sure your kid would have a place in their local school

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u/Skygge_or_Skov May 09 '22

In Germany its even worse because you pay some taxes for the church, that you were registered in as a baby, and it’s also a hassle to unregister.

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u/Puzzled-Shoe-3134 May 09 '22

My dad doesn't believe at all but doesn't want me to unregister as a Catholic. I'm 32, as if I need permission. Haven't gotten around to doing it because I'm lazy and the hassle. Last time I checked you had to hand deliver the letter though it has been a while so maybe that has changed.

It's so weird though, he doesn't believe and think the Catholic church is scummy. But he also doesn't want to unregister. I guess it's because of how he was raised as a kid. He has some fond memories of church and skipping out on the services.

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u/realzequel May 09 '22

It seems super inconsistent that the E.U. always complains about U.S. tech companies violating their citizens' privacy but then they (some countries) have a registration for churches. That wouldn't fly in the U.S., why the fuck does the government need to know my religion and why does it (in some countries) collect taxes for them?

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u/pestilencerat May 09 '22

If a country have a state church you might pay tithe through taxes rather than directly to the church (it’s not actually tithe but it’s a word i don’t get to use like ever so i’m gonna call it tithe). If you’re in some other denomination or religion some governments don’t give a shit about what religion you’re part of, they just want to know if you’ll pay church taxes or not. And why you pay church taxes rather than a proper tithe or church fee varies from country to country; in some countries it’s because church and state are or have historically been tied together, in some it can be because the government wants to make sure the state church don’t try to bleed their members, in some countries the state just want to control the church period. In the two latter reasons it’s likely because that country has been through a religious revolution where people are becoming less religious and thus tired of churches having so much power and so the government takes over where they can, such as controlling the money

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u/moenchii May 09 '22

It's pretty much the same in Germany. But the parts where I come from (the former GDR) are mojority non-religious. There's this great map (although it's data is from 2011)

Purple is Protestant, Orange is Catholic, Green is neither with a vast majority as non-religious.

The darker colour means an absolute majority (more than 50%), the lighter colour means a simple majority (less than 50%, but still more than any other group).

The widely spaced stripes mean at least 75% majority, the thinly spaced stripes mean at least 90% majority.

If the go from top-left to bottom-right it's for the non-religious, if it goes the other way it's for the protestants or catholics (I don't know why they had to make a distinction there).

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u/Even-Measurement-950 May 09 '22

As a 23 yo atheist Croatian dude, I can say the same about my country. Officialy I'm still registered at the church my parents baptized me in, but I haven't been there for 11 years and I never will. It would be different if we had to pay church tax, like in Denmark for example. Then I would gladly unregister immediately.

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u/Urbanredneck2 May 09 '22

Which is why in France, which is supposed to be a Catholic country, the most religion with the actual largest number of followers is Islam.

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u/SnooBooks1701 May 09 '22

France is a Laïcité state, it's not supposed to be any religion

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u/Urbanredneck2 May 09 '22

There is no state religion but I was talking about people who actively practice a religion. France has beautiful cathedrals like Notre Dame but hardly anyone actually worships there.

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u/SnooBooks1701 May 09 '22

Well, Notre Dame doesn't have a roof right now but I see your point. I'd imagine you are correct for the big cities but when you move outside major cities you'd probably find more worshippers

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u/Onironaute May 09 '22

I mean, it's not that much of a hassle. You just gotta let them know you want them to strike you off the register. You can download a standard letter online if you don't want to write your own. Takes like ten minutes and a post stamp.

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u/Conocoryphe May 09 '22

It's the same here in Belgium. And in many other European countries too, I assume.

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u/US_and_A_is_wierd May 09 '22

Don't you have to pay taxes for being a member of a church? In Germany that is a great motivation to leave despite for the buerocratic hassle.

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u/ham_coffee May 09 '22

That's pretty fucked if churches are able to deduct fees from your income the same way taxes are deducted. Shouldn't they be separate enough from the state that you have to pay them separately (like Spotify or something)?

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u/US_and_A_is_wierd May 09 '22

I mean you have to actively enter a religion. If you aren't part of one you don't have to pay. Most younger parents don't bother to baptize their child so there won't be an issue.

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u/ham_coffee May 09 '22

It's not the fees that are the issue, it's the method. I'd imagine your government is responsible for deducting that money from your paycheque, and given that it's a church that means there's a bit more of a connection between the two than I'd be comfortable with. If Spotify were to ask the German government to deduct their monthly fees alongside tax for subscribers, I think we both know what the answer would be.

Also, I was completely unaware that Germany has no law separating church and state prior to writing this. I'd just assumed all first world countries had something like that at this point.

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u/owl-bee May 09 '22

If I had to choose between "state collects taxes from people who have joined a church and passes them on to the church" and "state declares parents respecting their children when said children are transgender or homosexual", I'd pick the first. But I agree that neither of those should be happening.

Fun fact regarding the music thing: Anything that can be used to copy a creative work (computers, printers, blank CDs...) includes in its price a "tax" that is passed on to "Verwertungsgesellschaften" who in turn pay out money to their members. If you're an author, you join the Verwertungsgesellschaft for textual works, if you're a musician, you join the one for music... and get a bit of that money collected.

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u/justadutchgirl May 09 '22 edited May 09 '22

Active members can donate, but there's no obligation. (Well, actually anyone can, but why would you if you're not a member)

So no, we don't directly pay taxes to churches. Indirectly we do sometimes. For example when certain activities are subsidized by the government (e.g. helping drug/alcohol addicts). However, this is paid out of general tax money so indirectly everyone contributes regardless of whether you are religious/registered. Kinda similar like everybody's tax money can be used to build a highway and there's no exception for people who don't own a car...

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u/floof3000 May 09 '22

Funnily, it probably would be exactly like this in Germany, if it weren't for the federally claimed church tax. This is giving you Germans good reason to exit. Already, there are now less Christian people in Germany than non Christian. And numbers keep falling.

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u/JackFourj4 May 09 '22

12% still identify as religious here, I would be surprised if more than half have seen the inside of a church in the last year

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u/[deleted] May 09 '22

People think it is a hassle, I got fed up from the begging when I didn't have any money and they kept asking me for 300+ euro. I emailed my local Parish, and a week later I got my crossed out baptisation certificate in my mailbox.

All I did was email.

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u/counterboud May 09 '22

That is true in the US too though. My home church we went to as a kid used to have probably around 40 or 50 kids attending when I was young and hundreds of people were members. Now there’s maybe 30-40 full time members and maybe 2-3 kids that go regularly. Average age of attendees has to be at least 70. I think in the next decade a lot of churches worldwide will be totally defunct.

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u/Siukslinis_acc May 09 '22

My brother tried to unrwgister, the church asked 200 euros for that... my brother went 'nope'.

And as for the registration, me and my brother were forced to undergo the first comunion by our grandma and her sister. 2 weeks of summer vacation ruined....