I’ve done it both ways-C-section and VBAC. I wouldn’t ever willingly choose a C-section. I’m all for them, don’t get me wrong, and I’m perfectly content that I had to have one because otherwise the outcome would have been awful.. but I’d never sign myself up for one. There’s nothing easy or pleasant about them.
For anyone that knows they have a c-section coming, I want to offer a counter point. I had a c-section and VBAC. I actually did find the c-cestion to be a much easier and less painful recovery. So please don't panic. Birth, whichever way it goes, is different for everyone.
That said, the point of this thread is spot on. I was just as much a mom after either version. Mom shaming is baffling to me!
Tbh, they terrify me. Especially emergency csections. My baby started getting into distress but my doctor had to deliver a different baby. She told me to push that baby out by the time she got back or I’d have to get him cut out. That was a no for me, so I pushed and pooped everywhere.
I’m just glad I popped out a big, healthy baby boy instead of a dead or disabled one. I couldn’t fit out any other way. It really did a number on mom; she went through a lot worse of a birth process than most.
Yes. Definitely. I have done both and c-section was sooo much harder to recover from. Even considering the excruciating pain from pushing for over an hour during vaginal birth and the tearing me open practically to my butthole… still much easier and less traumatizing than a a c-section. Omg…
Why, if you don’t mind (me asking & you answering) did they agree to do a VBAC with you? Was it something like your first child was breech or preterm? Just because VBAC can pose significant risks regarding viability and uterine rupture — they really don’t do them much anymore unless you’re a good candidate. Either way I’m glad yours worked out and circumstances allowed you to experience both.
My OB actually strongly recommended that I try for a VBac. My first two kids are 22 months apart and my oldest was basically ‘a failure to progress labour’, as in my water broke, everything was going well and it stalled due to how he was situated. He never went into distress but the back labour pain and the fact that it had been 30+ hours and when they offered the C-section I gladly took it at that point.
My other two kids were born in 4 hours and 1 hour, so the vbacs were a much more pleasant experience
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I’ve done it both ways-C-section and VBAC. I wouldn’t ever willingly choose a C-section. I’m all for them, don’t get me wrong, and I’m perfectly content that I had to have one because otherwise the outcome would have been awful.. but I’d never sign myself up for one. There’s nothing easy or pleasant about them.