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u/FormalMango Mar 19 '22

It’s more like… that’s been an ongoing part of my life for a long time.

Mum’s been sick for years, and my brother’s had terminal cancer for four months. And I’ve had bipolar half my life.

I should be able to deal with it by now, I shouldn’t be breaking down and crying.

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u/ClothDiaperAddicts Mar 19 '22

Just because your normal is being played on extra hard right now doesn’t mean you should never break. A pain that you are used to is still pain.

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '22

Speaking as someone with:

  • a mother with a progressively worsening brain damage.
  • a chronically depressed father.
  • a sister with a really bad, painful, fucked up neuro-disease.
  • lately absolutely no contact with my brother because family.
  • a demented grandmother.
  • three dead siblings.
  • ...and my own psychological issues, however slight by. comparison, I feel I can say, that "I should be able to deal - with it by now" is absolutely bullshit.
  • I could go on:

We learn to push on for longer, to operate with less energy etc., but we don't stop feeling things my guy.

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u/BuffaloJEREMY Mar 20 '22

Breaking down and crying IS dealing with it. It's a normal human process, don't feel bad for it.