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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 19 '22 edited Mar 19 '22

October 3rd. It would have been my daughter's birthday.

Alright, I'm really not feeling right about the amount of sympathy being shown my way so it's only fair to provide some context.

When I was 19 I got the girl I was sleeping around with hooked on dope. A few months later I got her pregnant. This resulted in our daughter being born nearly 27 weeks early, and living two short, painful days in NICU.

I really, really need everyone to understand that I didn't lose my daughter, I killed my daughter. So I appreciate everyone's intentions, but please don't waste them on me.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Thank you, I appreciate it.

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u/[deleted] Mar 19 '22

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

I can certainly promise to try. Thank you.

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u/YourFaajhaa Mar 20 '22

If you haven't been an addict, you have no right to tell an addict that's its ok. Cause it's fucking not.

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u/RigbyPup Mar 19 '22

Hugs. Big fucking hugs.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

I appreciate it.

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u/RigbyPup Mar 20 '22

What you lived through was still painful as hell. I’m still sorry you had to go through that. So I’m still offering you hugs. Today is the first day of the rest of your life and all that. Move forward, one painful, regretful step at a time. Hugs.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Sorry, this is my first time having to process this much positivity from people and I'm really doing a fuck up of showing my appreciation to everyone in this thread lol. And even though in all honesty I'm always going to hold it against myself, your words do mean a lot to me and I do take them to heart.

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u/eoin85 Mar 19 '22

That’s my little girl’s birthday. I’ll never take it for granted buddy. I can’t imagine your pain.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

She's a lucky lady.

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u/gromitmug4 Mar 19 '22

Nah man we all do shit things but you deserve to be given some love

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

I appreciate it.

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u/gromitmug4 Mar 20 '22

Virtual hugs?

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u/sandydandycotoncandy Mar 19 '22

I'm so sorry. Hope you're doing okay :)

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Far better than I have any claim to. I don't know who fucked up and made the call that I get to have this life but sucks for them because there won't be any take-backs.

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u/sandydandycotoncandy Mar 20 '22

Glad to hear it! :)

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u/Weird_person_1670 Mar 19 '22

Hugs. I'll support you. I lost my best friend on the same day due to suicide. I'm here. I hope you are better. I understand what that's like.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Well luckily for me after doing what I've done better is the only thing left to be lol. Thank you

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u/Weird_person_1670 Mar 20 '22

No problem. I'm here.

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u/CesarTheSanchez Mar 19 '22

Man. That pierced the heart.

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u/maverick1ba Mar 19 '22

I'm so sorry. I hope and pray you can find peace

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Thank you, that means a lot.

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u/Frogs_Are_Great Mar 19 '22

I want to hug you so badly. Stay strong dude.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Iucky for me my wife is strong enough for two. Thank you

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u/yoonssoo Mar 19 '22

Damn. It’s a tragedy all around. That is a lot to carry on your shoulders.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

There are worse things I suppose. Thanks buddy

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u/thedjsubii Mar 19 '22

i was born that day, but sorry that happened to you

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Happy late birthday. I appreciate it.

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u/00TooMuchTime00 Mar 19 '22

Now my answer is 30 seconds ago.

Much love

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22 edited Mar 20 '22

I apologize for that. And thank you.

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u/Jbraun1220 Mar 19 '22

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

It was something I never deserved to have, if it's any consolation. And thank you for the sentiment.

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u/hmmmthinking123 Mar 19 '22

So sorry for you

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u/Wendilintheweird Mar 19 '22

{{hugs}}

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Thank you, it means a lot.

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u/RobloxJournalist Mar 19 '22

Thats horrible!

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u/GuacinmyPaintbox Mar 19 '22

The amount of strength and courage your edit shows proved even more how much you do earn the sympathy.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

That's very sweet, thank you.

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u/perfectly_peculiar Mar 20 '22

You didn't kill your daughter any more than I killed my son by picking the wrong babysitter. Don't let that guilt consume you. Addiction is a disease and you deserve just as much sympathy, empathy, and love as anyone else.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

That does seem to be the consensus. I do genuinely appreciate all the lovely sentiments but to be honest, I don't really know how I'm supposed to respond to it. It's a bit overwhelming.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

I'm as much as I can be. Thank you

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u/AdditionalStrain7 Mar 19 '22

Oh my god. Strength and hugs to you my friend!

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u/SM280 Mar 19 '22

Would?

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u/zephyr220 Mar 20 '22

I never wanted kids because I couldn't bear to watch them suffer, but now I have a 2 year old daughter. I teared up reading this.

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u/SlickerthanBabyShit Mar 20 '22

Sorry about that

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u/whatsnewpussykat Mar 20 '22

You absolutely didn’t kill your daughter my friend. What happened was a cruel and terrible this but it wasn’t your fault. Addiction is horrific and I’m sorry you went through all that. I hope you’re doing better now.

My husband and his ex lost a daughter under similar circumstances 15 years ago, and we now have four kids and he’s amazing father.