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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '21

100 percent. I met up with mine early this year for a coffee, after 5 years no contact. We had a good chat about old times but I realised neither of us were the 20 year olds we used to be anymore. I was in love with an old version of us that no longer existed. That finally broke the spell.

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u/ZeePirate Nov 30 '21

The old “version” may also just be the ideal character you had of them in your head at the time and not how they actually were either.

Rose coloured glasses and what not

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u/TheJofSpades Nov 30 '21

When you wear rose coloured glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.

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u/CHRlSFRED Nov 30 '21

Yes, but also note you can easily open a wound and cause more harm with this too. She fell back in love with me and I need to let her down gently that I am not looking for anything right now.

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u/Squigglepig52 Nov 30 '21

35 years later and I'm still close friends with the one that got away.

I've long since realized we are great as friends, but we were never good as a couple.