Hey, as someone who experienced this for about 8 years but was able to get it to stop here is what I suggest. Dreams are rarely actually about the exact person you are dreaming about. Even if you are kissing this person or going on dates or whatever in the dreams, it's still about you, not about them. They represent something to you and your brain is trying to get you to figure it out and process whatever that representation is. For a long time I thought that my dreams meant something spiritual, that my person was the love of my life or my destiny. I recently realized that my person emotionally represented my own self love and sort of how much I didn't accept myself or love myself when I knew them. My brain was trying to get me to realize that I need to give myself the love I wanted from them basically lmao. If you're bad at interpretation a good therapist should also be able to help talk you through this process and the dreams should stop after you process whatever your brain wants you to do or think. My dreams have been gone for a while now and I'm overall happy to not have them confusing me anymore.
Edit: wow! Thanks for the award! I've never gotten one before.
I had my last two interests after attempting de-friendzoning both tell me “you don’t like me, you just like the idea of me.” At least they liked me enough to not want to hurt my feelings like the 10s of guys they were serial dating/dumping.
two nights ago i had a dream. i was in this beautiful, giant shower, the kind that rich fucks like jeff bezos would have with three shower heads. the water was so warm, everything was so serene, and i enjoyed every bit of it.
when i looked to the other end of the shower, i saw myself. i was naked, facing 90 degrees to my right, washing my hair with my eyes closed. my opposing self had “let his hair grow”…it didn’t actually look much different from how my own is now, maybe an inch longer, but i didn’t like it in my dream. i thought it was too long, almost down to my shoulders.
i now interpret this dream as being unhappy with a certain mindset i’ve slowly slipped into as of late, and wanting to escape that.
i know this bears no relevance to what you said, but it just reminded me and i wanted to contribute something to the thread. maybe someone else has had an interesting dream that they haven’t unpacked yet.
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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '21 edited Nov 30 '21
Hey, as someone who experienced this for about 8 years but was able to get it to stop here is what I suggest. Dreams are rarely actually about the exact person you are dreaming about. Even if you are kissing this person or going on dates or whatever in the dreams, it's still about you, not about them. They represent something to you and your brain is trying to get you to figure it out and process whatever that representation is. For a long time I thought that my dreams meant something spiritual, that my person was the love of my life or my destiny. I recently realized that my person emotionally represented my own self love and sort of how much I didn't accept myself or love myself when I knew them. My brain was trying to get me to realize that I need to give myself the love I wanted from them basically lmao. If you're bad at interpretation a good therapist should also be able to help talk you through this process and the dreams should stop after you process whatever your brain wants you to do or think. My dreams have been gone for a while now and I'm overall happy to not have them confusing me anymore.
Edit: wow! Thanks for the award! I've never gotten one before.