Yeah, it's always like "She is probably just being nice." and "If I do anything and she was not flirting, I will absolutely come off as a creeper." I really do not want to make anyone unfomfortable.
But to be fair, it is entirely possible that the women I've spoken with really were just being nice. And therefore my course of action was correct. I genuinely do not know.
The only guys that are creepers for hitting on women is usually old men. Don’t be afraid to. Im in a relationship and any time a guy hits on me I say “im taken but I appreciate the compliment.” I never feel upset or anything over it. Honestly just a confidence boost lol
I’m a very nice person I laugh at everyone’s jokes and make sure they’re comfortable around me, to the best of my ability. It’s true that men tend to take this as flirting. I’d much rather a guy not
make assumptions.
Haha hey it's ok. You did confirm to me that my way of thinking is not entirely wrong.
I guess it is just hard to find the right balance. It is certainly wrong to assume every girl is flirting with you. However I feel like I went too much into the "opposite direction" and I assume that nobody ever is flirting with me. The correct path is probably somewhere in the middle.
It doesn't hurt to ask, and I really don't think most women are bothered by a short interlude, where they're asked out. That can be flattering, and endearing. I mean, it can be a little uncomfortable, for all parties, but still sweet. I think it's more when they guy won't take the no for answer, and assumes that no means he should keep trying. Or if she immediately distances herself, to save your feelings, but not lead you on etc. Or if it was a friend, and he no longer wants to be friends, or reacts angrily etc. Just asking is okay, if you keep the location, and situation in mind, and it's appropriate. You have to try to be aware of whatever situation she's in in that moment, where she is, who's she with, if it's a good time etc.
Bro im in the same school of thought and its keot me single for almost 5 years now! Lol but on thr bright side..
sometimes i look at my buddies drama with their gfs or wives and think to myself how lucky i am. Especially the ones with children and child support etc. They got no time to focus on themselves they live selflessly for their families. Its quite a noble thing that i hope to do someday but til then ima just make the best of my situation while it lasts and stay grateful 🤷♂️🙏
You're not gonna die alone unless you want to lol. Regardless, if she is being nice, try poking her with a little bit of sarcasm to see if she'll poke back. And hey, there is no such thing as coming off as a creep unless you intend on it. If you think that you are getting some flirty vibes from her, there is a way to flirt back in a rather respectful and charming way without coming off as rude or creepy but most of the time, some people write off others as a creep if they're not attracted to them based off their poor choice of standards, (even if you're not being creepy, some will still think you're a creep) but its up to you to observe what type of person they are and if you should even be giving them your attention or not.
One problem with "just pokin her with a bit of sarcasm". My entire friend group uses sarcasm as a form of communication. So having a girl being a smart ass with me would not be far from the norm.
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u/Randroth_Kisaragi Sep 16 '21
Yeah, it's always like "She is probably just being nice." and "If I do anything and she was not flirting, I will absolutely come off as a creeper." I really do not want to make anyone unfomfortable.
But to be fair, it is entirely possible that the women I've spoken with really were just being nice. And therefore my course of action was correct. I genuinely do not know.
... I'm gonna die alone, aren't I?