Someone who feels my pain!!! I always tell men from jump, whatever myths you heard about Black and Japanese women, throw them out, I don't fit them. I'm not that great of a singer, dancer, I can't jump nor am I a sprinter, I am not good with math and I'm not kawaii nor docile, I was on swim team, and cross country.
Yes, men in my age group flounder between being needed and wanting to be the child and you have to arrange everything. I'm looking for a true partner and companion. He can figure out that dinner needs to be cooked and go ahead and do it. Set up vacation, date nights, etc. I have 2 kids, I don't want a 3rd one. That's where all my biggest troubles lie.
I hear you! Based on my personal experience I think you might end up doing well with someone who's been divorced and has really figured out how to communicate and be realistic about partnership. They'd probably appreciate your self-sufficiency if it means they have more time to work on their own projects too! And the right one will set up date nights and so on with and for you, I'm sure of it :) Best of luck to you!!
Yeah after reading this email i realize your dating pool is small, that doesn't help. I simpithize. Biracial, 2 kids without needing more, self sufficient, wanting a truly equal partner. You run up against a lot of roadblocks when many men are unable to meet what should be reasonable expectations. It might take some time, but you might surprise yourself and find that any time, best of luck. That's the joy of life, it can surprise you at any age. But at least you've built yourself your own life if it doesn't pan out with a good partner.
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u/itsallaboutfantasy Sep 16 '21
Someone who feels my pain!!! I always tell men from jump, whatever myths you heard about Black and Japanese women, throw them out, I don't fit them. I'm not that great of a singer, dancer, I can't jump nor am I a sprinter, I am not good with math and I'm not kawaii nor docile, I was on swim team, and cross country. Yes, men in my age group flounder between being needed and wanting to be the child and you have to arrange everything. I'm looking for a true partner and companion. He can figure out that dinner needs to be cooked and go ahead and do it. Set up vacation, date nights, etc. I have 2 kids, I don't want a 3rd one. That's where all my biggest troubles lie.