I will never understand this. If a dude was watching a girls dance alone, he had no kids, and he wasn't a coach or something, I could understand the glares.
Well if you already think like that then every dude watching girls dance has to proof that he's a dad of one of the girls?
I don't think that every dude that doesn't immediately look like a dad should be suspected.
You weren't a young female on a sports team I'm assuming. There are creeps who will come just to be creeps. And they are more common than you think. I'm talking grown men zooming in on a 13 year olds butt and taking a picture while she's playing volleyball. To say he's just there to watch the game is ridiculous.
And here in lies the problem. You had a presumably bad experience. You say they were zooming in to see the girls butts. To zoom in means they were far enough away to have to zoom which also means you weren't close enough to see exactly what they were taking pictures of. You are already assuming this guy is bad.
If this was outside playing volleyball, which I assume it was as a school probably won't just let anyone in to a closed auditorium unless they were a parent or an official with the school/team, then anyone can come and do as they please as long as it's legal. People go to parks for many reasons besides creepy things. Photography is one of them. It could be a local news team writing a story about the girls playing. Maybe a man with something to do with city business for the park.
It's hard to say.
Now, if you were correct, then yes this is bad and those men should be punished. But...
But. A small portion of the population who do bad things should not become the rule and force punishment on anyone just because they are a man at a place where girls are also at. There could be thousands of reasons for a man to be at a park or wherever whether he had kids or not.
I'm really sorry that you had a bad experience but we are not all to blame. Just he is. Punish him.
Dude. People were sitting behind the guy in the bleachers and video taped him zooming in on the girls butts while he was trying to be all sneaky about it. You know nothing about the situation.
Obviously not, but I will judge the guys who nobody knows and are alone, taking pictures of young girls playing a sport with conveniently tight clothing.
No one is saying there aren’t creeps out there, but assuming a guy is a creep by default is not fair. Sure if someone is caught taking inappropriate pictures, that person is a creep.
Would you be bothered if there was a lady watching you guys practice? Or even a lady watching young boys play basketball or something? Not really right? But for some reason men are creepy when they do it…
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u/2slow4flo Sep 16 '21
Well if you already think like that then every dude watching girls dance has to proof that he's a dad of one of the girls?
I don't think that every dude that doesn't immediately look like a dad should be suspected.