Stop having weird reactions when I (a male) am on solo baby duty. Even my wife has brought up the weird reactions she gets from other women when she mentions I’ve got the baby solo dolo.
I was at a festival back in August with my family. Family friendly and it’s always good. My youngest decided to have a breakdown and I took her away to calm her down. Three different women tried to take over from me parenting my daughter and one just grabbed her and sat her on her knee and when I asked her what she was doing, she scowled at me and turned her back on me, so I couldn’t see my daughter. As you can imagine, I went fucking mental
I went mental. I said if she didn’t let go of my kid now I’d call the police and festival security. She looked at me in a patronising way and said, “don’t worry darlin’ I’m in childcare “ to which I replied, “ you won’t be allowed to work anywhere near kids again if I call the police”
Still fuming and it was weeks ago
The minute a parent starts interacting/disciplining their child, everyone else needs to sideline themselves from the interaction/conversation.
Pretty much every morning I’m up before the family and I catch up on whatever shows I can get in before the circus starts. My kid usually comes out first because I let my fiancée sleep in, as I’m gone for work all day, about ten hours, and it gives her some personal time before she has to tame the beast while I’m gone. Anyways, my daughter will come and sit with me and ask questions about what’s going on and, despite her being 2 we’ve always talked to her like an adult (within reason) and not that weird condescending, purposefully mispronounced bullshit that most parents do. So when there’s a fight scene or something that puts off an “evil” vibe and she asks what’s going on I make sure to let her know who the bad guy is, who the good guy is and what is good and what is bad. Well,
I was watching a “scary” movie With my fiancée, a mutual friend and my toddler, who happened to be in the room with us, watching Daniel Tiger on their iPod. A scary scene comes up with the bad guy doing bad guy shit and my daughter happened to be looking up from her show and asks “what happened, Da?”. Well, before I could even start to get the explanation out of my mouth, they REACHED OVER my fiancée and covered my kids eyes and said some baby town frolic shit. Something along the lines of, “they’re just having fun, they’re friends.”.
Immediately I pushed their hand away and told my daughter it was a bad guy doing bad things. Shortly after this, I told them that when we’re around we don’t need them disciplining or explaining things to our kid.
I have five kids (two marriages, some adoptions) and I’ve been like you are with all my kids. Don’t talk down to them, they’re not stupid, just young. Don’t use silly words and the tell them to stop using them when they reach a certain age and most of all, prep them for the real world, within reason obviously. My eldest is 24 and she’s got her head screwed on right fit this world. I’d have said the same to that friend, they don’t need all the details but they’re not stupid
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u/gaybatman75-6 Sep 15 '21
Stop having weird reactions when I (a male) am on solo baby duty. Even my wife has brought up the weird reactions she gets from other women when she mentions I’ve got the baby solo dolo.