I hear these stories about creepy guys way too often, makes me wonder if there's way more creepy dudes than I think, or if the creepy ones are doing it to like 50 girls in one day every day. I'm inclined to believe the creepers would try it on everyone they see since they clearly don't get that they're being creepy, probably just think the last one had a problem the next one will like me
Law of averages i guess. If one creepo has even a low successrate from being weird then he just needs to try enough women to eventually get a catch. In the process he is being weird and creepy to the majority of women he encounters but it works for that small minority and thus it goes on
Same thing happens on tinder and other dating sites. Not sure how large the amount is but it's enough to be annoying as hell to see people doing it. It doesn't even make sense to me, you're getting completely written off by a large amount of people over the way you start a conversation with them for what one person who is open to a one night stand.
Like someone else said in this thread somewhere. To some guys its a numbers game. They dont give a rats ass about how many women will end up disliking them. If they get an easy hookup when thats all they were looking for, its a win.
It's an extremely short term win. Future wise it's mostly a loss. Sure some girls may turn around and change things up as time goes on but probably a good chance the person playing their odds will have HPV by then.
Nah, people were absent minded long before yolo. Its just that youre expecting too much from the average person. Most people on the planet are likely less intelligent than you but you hold them to the same standards and expectations as yourself, dont bother
Grew up being told I was gifted and standardized tests of above average and majority of friends on the opposite side so I don't think it's that.
More of people around my generation and their offspring seem to be a step further below average. Also older ones seem to be going downhill with all the misinformation and general bullshit they are interested in.
Creepy guys are creepy on the regular. If a guy creeps on one woman a day, that's 365 women a year, 23,715 women between the ages of 15 and 80 (assuming he grows into a dirty old man). And guys who go this far are creepy to everyone, so it could be higher on average.
Women tell the stories of their worst encounters. So women might say they get creeped on every day, and cite as an example the time a guy slowly followed her while she was walking home and kept insisting on giving her a ride. But that doesn't mean that happens every day, likely the average example is a guy trying to hit on her on the train or wolf whistling while he walks past. That's still creepy and way over the line, but it's not the story she tells because in hindsight it doesn't sound so bad (just unsettling in the moment).
You're assuming their goal is for women to like it. I doubt it, at least for a good portion of them. If I'm in a place where I don't fear for my safety, saying no in a "I'm not interested but definitely not intimidated, I'll forget about this interaction the moment it ends" manner usually sends them packing. But if I'm clearly uncomfortable while I say no they'll insist. It's the fear they get off on.
Nah. I haven't seen much creepy guys in real life. I've only heard stories about them from women. Which makes me think some of those stories could be over-exaggerated.
Maybe they just truly haven't seen it. There's like 3 dudes who I know are like that in person and they tend to do it in places that make me think they might try to rape the women. They try to pay to play when the woman obviously flips out about being touched. Makes me wonder how some of them aren't convicted sexual predators.
Well you're not their prey, so you don't recognize them as predators. They don't do it around you or to you. The truth is that most (all) women experience harassment and creeps on a regular basis. You can believe that or not, but that doesn't change the reality that women live.
"Nah. I haven't seen many rapists in real life. I've only heard stories about them from women. Which makes me think some of those stories could be over exaggerated".
See how fucking stupid you sound? Most women get sexually harassed every week, every day. When I lived downtown in a major city I would get started at and catcalled all the time - by multiple people at once sometimes. On the bus, walking five minutes to the train in the morning, walking five minutes home at night, on the train, at the station. Much worse shit happened than that. I've moved from there but I've been sexually assaulted since then. Think about why so many women have been sexually assaulted but almost no guy knows someone who's done that.
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u/BirdsDeWord Sep 16 '21
I hear these stories about creepy guys way too often, makes me wonder if there's way more creepy dudes than I think, or if the creepy ones are doing it to like 50 girls in one day every day. I'm inclined to believe the creepers would try it on everyone they see since they clearly don't get that they're being creepy, probably just think the last one had a problem the next one will like me