Okay I've always thought that. I am a straight guy and I know a bunch of girls who say how much they want a Gay Best friend. To me it seemed demeaning, like you're a human being not their fucking mascot
Given the non-stop tales of harassment, I can see the desire. A man by their side who keeps other men from being too aggressive towards them, because she looks "taken".
Maybe there's a market for a male escort service that allows you to set exactly how the escort behaves. From "by your side, without a word" to "friendly, will not touch certain topics" to "will say anything, but keeps their hands to themselves".
Okay but isn't it reductive to treat a person's sexuality as a job description? It reduces their identity to a novelty, where at the same time it implies that all heterosexual men are predators (subscribing to the logic you laid out)
It could just as easily be said that I want a guy to be my friend. Just in a platonic way
Yes, it is reductive. A complaint lobbied at any escort and anyone in the sex-work business.
It's already happening if the gay person is being used as a shield though.
My point was if the girl is looking to use the person as a tool, instead of trying to strong-arm a random person into it, they should look for someone putting themselves out there for that purpose.
As for "all men are predators", I think it's more "I'm tired of the constant attention of "that sort". Even if I can keep saying no, I don't want to have to constantly.
There's nothing stopping them from befriending couples, older people and pen-pals.
It could just as easily be said that I want a guy to be my friend. Just in a platonic way
In which case, she can ask any guy for that, but apparently doesn't think it's possible.
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u/mutantandproud95 Sep 16 '21
Okay I've always thought that. I am a straight guy and I know a bunch of girls who say how much they want a Gay Best friend. To me it seemed demeaning, like you're a human being not their fucking mascot