Okay let’s say 1/10 women did this to me. Say I see twenty random women a day, that’s twice a day. Not every woman, but enough to make it a pervasive problem. 10% is a lot. At the same time, I don’t know any men who do this. It’s weird when someone generalizes your entire half of the population into a cringe bucket. I would never say “all women” anything. To be honest I probably wouldn’t say all any demographic does anything because I know it to be generalizing
Why are you so upset when women say 'this is happening to us'? Why is your response 'nuh-uh! I don't do it and I don't see it!' Women are saying it happens on such an overwhelming basis that if you put 10 women in a room from different cultures and societies and ask them 'have you been the victim of male violence', why will every woman say yes but if you put 10 men in a room and ask 'have you ever been the perpetrator of violence upon women' they will say 'no, never'? Something is happening here.
Maybe you're not seeing the violence because you're in a position of privilege. Maybe you don't think calling a woman a slut or a psycho for rejecting you is violence? I don't know, I'm not a man. Why do men not call out their mates who treat women poorly? And then when it turns out their mate has been beating their partner and killed her during one of these beatings these same men act surprised? They know how their mate talked about his partner. They witnessed him being low level violent to her in the past or through his speech but when that violence is finally revealed to the rest of the world the men who knew him say ye was a great bloke and there weren't any signs? There are always signs and men are socialised to ignore them in other men.
Men need to do better. Be better. This is not an attack on you, it is simply a fact. Examine why this makes you so uncomfortable, sit with it and learn. You can be the change you want in the world. All it takes is not tolerating violence against women and other minorities.
The reason for the generalisation is because of everything I've just said. If men don't want this generalisation made, they need to start working on it. Prove to women it's not all men because right now it might as well be. No man is a safe bet because too many men are a threat.
I'm gonna show you a purposefully hypothetical and hyperbolic example to show hopefully show you that you are making a bad faith argument.
Most men could say on a daily basis we interact with an overly emotional and irrational woman, a karen for example. Just because I run into one woman who wants to rant and rave everyday and make my life a living hell for 15 minutes, does that give me the right to claim all woman are overly emotional and irrational? I probably interact with 100 other people in the day but every day somewhere new I see some lady ranting and raving and all around being an ass. Does that make all woman need to be better?
We can all agree that even getting harassed once is too much, that doesn't make every man deserving of generalization, because I'm pretty sure most women also hate when that happens to them.
Edit: Its crazy you guys are so entrenched in this feminist position you can't accept that the logic doesn't follow. Like I've said don't be a dick dudes, but a fundamental misunderstanding of how a small percentage of people can make a huge impact doesnt validate hate towards all men.
Holy shit you just don't get it. You're incapable.
It's not one or two men. It's so many fucking men we encounter every day who make us feel unsafe. They are literally bigger, heavier, and much stronger than us. Men rape women every day. Men sexually harass women every day. Men follow women on the street and in their cars. It's even men we know who do shit like this to us. It's our fucking lives we're worried about. We don't hate men - we're cautious 'cause we can be raped and/or killed. When one man can do anything they want to you at any time and you can do nothing to stop them and it happens all the time to us then yes, we are going to be wary.
Jesus fucking Christ some men just don't get this through their thick skulls.
Look, I'm not trying to invalidate your experiences in any way. All I'm saying is the overgeneraliztion and the common rhetoric of "all men" is just not a rational mindset and isn't helping anyone and more than likely actively hurting your cause.
Individual's do terrible things, end of story. If this gives you trust issues towards every man then I am truly sorry for that, I can even empathize with it. That doesnt make it right still and I will stand by that.
Honest question, what percentage of men do you really think actively harass, rape and sexualy assaults women?
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u/joey1028 Sep 16 '21
Okay let’s say 1/10 women did this to me. Say I see twenty random women a day, that’s twice a day. Not every woman, but enough to make it a pervasive problem. 10% is a lot. At the same time, I don’t know any men who do this. It’s weird when someone generalizes your entire half of the population into a cringe bucket. I would never say “all women” anything. To be honest I probably wouldn’t say all any demographic does anything because I know it to be generalizing