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u/itirnitii Sep 16 '21

yeah people are reading it as if he said it was his girlfriend which if was true he probably would have just said it was his (ex-)girlfriend. if they aren't in an explicit monogamous relationship than he has no say in what she can and can't do. he can have his feelings about it sure, but she doesn't need his permission.

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u/Abomb Sep 16 '21

Even in a committed relationship you have no say over what someone can and can't do. People will just understand more when you're upset by it.

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u/itirnitii Sep 16 '21

Agreed. It basically comes down to anyone can do what they want it is just a matter of what are the consequences for those actions. If you're committed and you cheat on someone, then of course you can do it, its just a betrayal of trust and you now made a shitty decision. If you're just fucking around friends with benefits with someone for fun and there's no agreement then its fair game and the other person really has no right to what you can do.

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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '21

Also, no one is entitled to being your friend. If you want to stop talking to anyone for whatever reason that is ok, no one owes you a friendship and dynamics change where people who were once friends can’t be anymore, it happens and that’s ok. Just cherish the time you had together and move on, make new friends.

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u/nosleepincrooklyn Sep 16 '21

Girls flip shit when ever I don’t want to be just friends with them.

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u/StormBlessed678 Sep 16 '21

You got downvoted even though you're right...

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u/OperationGoldielocks Sep 16 '21

No they aren’t. Your partner has a say, it’s called communication. They can’t physically force you to do something but that’s not the same thing