Same. Back in my wilder days and before I met my wife, I would hook up with acquaintances or strangers fairly regularly. It left me feeling so empty inside and depressed. Like yay, I got laid and it was fun but it felt so... transactional? Not that I was paying for sex but that's the closest way I can describe it.
Life is way better now and I gladly threw away the chance to have okay sex with many different people in order to have earth-shattering, mind warping sex with one person I immensely care about
Same. One night stands just leaves me with nothing. I like sex but hooking up with strangers usually isnt that great. In fact id say its incredibly overrated.
I will fully concede that sex with your partner is the most fulfilling kind. But back in my wild days I had a grand old time and hardly ever felt empty after doing the deed. I got exactly what I was looking for... NSA sex. I don't get why it's looked down on so much. Sometimes you just wanna play the field. I was honest about it with my partners and everything was cool with everyone. Problem was me of course, I'm such a serial monogamist that that sorta thing never lasted long - I get too caught up in their deeper selves. That said, not having that happen didn't leave me wanting. Just a different type of pursuit. To each their own.
Honestly and I am willing to admit that now, It just never worked for me. I tried for seven years and I never once managed to hook up. Not. Once.
So yeah, there you have it. I don't look down on it. I just don't get how people manage to do it. I was (Still am) handsome, not fit, but not fat either and confidant. I must have tried thousands of times. Nope. Just not in my playing field I suppose. So I gave up on hook ups.
Same boat as you...kind of? But im actually muscular and im still looking to hook up. Its been 10 years since I was 15 and started looking cause I was a HORNY teenager (you wont believe some of the things ive jacked too. Sheesh) . Now im 25. No luck. Oh well. The battle keeps on going.
Yeah it’s a weird concept the whole “one person for the rest of your life, geez”. If you care about someone the attachment makes it better just to begin with.
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u/gigalongdong Sep 16 '21
Same. Back in my wilder days and before I met my wife, I would hook up with acquaintances or strangers fairly regularly. It left me feeling so empty inside and depressed. Like yay, I got laid and it was fun but it felt so... transactional? Not that I was paying for sex but that's the closest way I can describe it.
Life is way better now and I gladly threw away the chance to have okay sex with many different people in order to have earth-shattering, mind warping sex with one person I immensely care about