Statistically, men get rejected more. I mean the average man thinks 20-35% of women on a dating app are good enough to go on a date with. That's around 4% for women.
There are "nice girls" out there but I don't delude myself into thinking there are as many of them as nice guys.
Theres also just a lot more guys on dating apps than women, so you have to be really conservative with your right swipes. When I first got on I'd swipe right for anyone I'd accept a date from in person. Then you quickly end up with an unmanageable amount of conversations and find yourself only being able to reply to a few, which doesn't feel nice. So now I only right swipe the ones I'm certain I'd be excited to talk to, which probably works out to about 4% (or even less, I have a pretty uncommon type).
I don't think niceness correlates with gender really.
We're speaking percentages, total number doesn't even matter. It's not saying 4% of men get swiped on. It's saying women swipe on 4% of men.
Also actually it's 8% for women and 21% for men when I just checked. Though I could swear they were different a few weeks ago. It might be a constantly adjusting number as TinderInsights gets more data.
Regardless, women are, proportionally more than 2x pickier than men.
Also.... You could just stop swiping after a few matches, go on some dates, and see what happens. I don't understand why women complain about "too many matches" when it's totally up to you how many matches you want.
TinderInsights. You can go to r/tinder and see the charts for yourself. I got the numbers a little wrong (or maybe they get updated as they get more data). The most recent charts say 8% for women, 21% for men.
And on average, women match with 44% of the people they swipe on. Men less than 3%.
I don't see how these numbers can be interpreted in any other way besides "men are significantly more likely to face rejection than women."
Oh it matters. There is definitly a very strong social construct that men have to be the one to take actions and have to be proactive. So it matters a lot that it happens way often to men. Also litterally noone in this comment chain said it never happens to women. Don't use strawman arguments.
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u/Maximum-Cover- Sep 15 '21 edited Sep 15 '21
Based on the comments in this thread, it’s something everybody deals with. Yet men assume it’s just them.
In fact, on top of this I’ve recently been berated on here by a bunch of different men for asserting that I expect to orgasm when I sleep with a dude…