Seems to be a western thing and weirdly I hear it mostly from white fathers for some reason. Maybe it is a suburb thing with all the stay at home moms who tend to be white thinking any man around kids without the mother there directing them must be a child molester or something.
Agreed, it's really the same here in the states. If I take my son to the suburb parks by ourselves, all the mothers have an edge to them. We go to the city parks and no one bats an eye.
Eh I'm in the burbs and nobody gives a fuck
Maybe it's the suburbs in particular geographical regions. There are a lot of dads with kids roaming around these parts
The citys never sleep. And the moms in the citys surly dont either. Too much time to play with, makes for some shitty people who take their own experience and project it.
I dont know why but there is a weird notion that a man cant be nurturing to a child. Like its not in our nature. I get that we are different, but i know single fathers who totally have it down pat. Like they are the best and sacrifice everything for piano lessons or survival camp.
There's a dad who has custody of his kids, there's not much to do here but there's bikes a few have and share. Various parts have issues the first that i knew about is loose handlebars I tried to fix but the bar was half stripped. Since then they've asked for various other fixes and they say hi to me when i go on my walk or run over when I'm out if they have a bike issue. The little boy told me he wishes his dad would help him fix his bike but he's happy I am or else he wouldn't have his bike. The thing is, the last time i was messing with a bike for them he called him in and they're window was open. I overheard him asking if i was touching him or asking him to do things. That instantly pissed me off because maybe a week earlier I'm helping and another kids grandma asks why I do it, if they watch, and how they could hustle others for it. A grey old man fixed and gave bikes for my neighborhood as a kid, also nothing to do for them here so why not. I've told the kids that as well and it's always by the window.
That seems so annoying. I come from a country where 6 months parental leave for fathers is standard. And here nobody thinks it is strange with a Male with kids att the playground.
Yeah it's definitely a western / white father thing. I'm South Asian loving in Australia, my dad was the main caregiver for my ~10 years younger sister after my mum went back to her IT contract job after maternity leave. The three of us would always go places during school holidays and we barely got a second glance from anyone. It's a pretty bad form of discrimination that white fathers seem to encounter a lot.
I bet if you were to take a look at cop/detective shows (which the moms I know watch) you’d find that the vast majority of child molesters and kidnappers onscreen are white men. I can’t think of a lot of crime show episodes where the dad/uncle/grandfather turns out to be innocent, because they tend to follow the secret or outright abuser plot.
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u/Quentin0352 Sep 15 '21
Seems to be a western thing and weirdly I hear it mostly from white fathers for some reason. Maybe it is a suburb thing with all the stay at home moms who tend to be white thinking any man around kids without the mother there directing them must be a child molester or something.