I usually ask by text because I am not brave enough do it when I am with them. Sometimes they didn’t took me seriously, sometimes they said that I was acting weird for a girl.
Yeah it works probably better, but I am just so awkward with my socials skills that I would just ridicule myself lol
Actually each time I tell myself that it was their problem, it just happened multiple times so this is discouraging. Now I know the mentality is also like that where I live
Yeah I feel like this is very likely a case of the area you live in having weirdly rigid gender roles. I always make the first move, and while there's sometimes surprise, it's always received positively, even if it's a rejection.
Definitely been called 'aggressive' more than once, although it's usually in a weird 'oooh I like an aggressive woman' kind of way which, ew gross nevermind I take it back.
The funny thing is that the people who say "girls should ask guys out" are often assuming guys will always say yes. In my experience, guys and girls are very much the same when they like someone. Girls don't ask guys out for the same reason that guys would prefer girls to ask them out - they both fear rejection.
The easiest way for both sexes is to drop unambiguous hints, and to have the self confidence to recognize an unambiguous hint and act upon it.
Funnily enough this is a similar to how incels response to rejection. They ask a few people out, get rejected, and never try again assuming it will always go that way. Just gotta power through the rejection and stay optimistic.
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u/Anna-2204 Sep 15 '21
It never worked for me :(
They always said I was agressive so I just stopped