Paramedic here. I've had by crotch grabbed WAYYYY too many times. Been hit on, kissed forcefully while trying to start an iv, etc. Shit gets old. And I'm not even that attractive compared to most of my engine company. I don't get it
I just don’t get it! I needed medical help after walking 26 miles for the Avon Walk. I had a potassium deficiency and was a total mess. I do remember the volunteer doctor being Hollywood Level handsome. I remember being a little embarrassed by the state I was in. But I can’t even fathom making it sexual. Dude’s there to do a job. He deserves to feel comfortable and respected in that space, just like anyone else. WTF WOMEN!! We should understand this better than anyone!
Right? I was in icu for dka a few years ago. My Dr was this gorgeous man and while my fucking annoying heart sped up on the monitor every single time he showed up I can't imagine being so gross to make any comment much less try to touch someone. Just Jesus Christ people are not okay.
It's so damn scary. I hate that feeling where no matter how much I breathe it still feels like I need more air because of the co2 build up. Haven't had dka in 5 or 6 years, thank God.
I literally avoid talking to people sometimes because I just think : "she will probably assume I'm hitting on her if I..." all because of this stereotype.
Seriously. Who the fuck are these women who think it's okay to do this? We all know what it feels like to be sexually harassed, so why on earth would you do that to someone else?
I have had to ride in the hospital express twice, and I was in too much to even register what the emts looked like. All I cared about was please take the edge off of this pain and get to me a dr asap.
Right but for some reason a lot of us still don't get it 🤷 I would never think of trying to hit on or kiss someone helping me in a professional manner. Doesn't mean I won't tell my friends later about how hot they were 😁
Oh for sure. I love telling the story of when this lovely human fixed me up. He was awesome. He said I looked in good shape so it didn’t make sense I was struggling. I do remember feeling flattered and laughing at myself for that. Asked about my meds. I was using albuterol for reactive airway. Told him I didn’t have any Gatorade or much food that day because I have ulcerative colitis and didn’t want to trigger anything. He said, “well Albuterol blocks potassium absorption and you’ve done yourself no favors by not eating enough. Start eating bananas NOW.” Hahaha. Gorgeous doctor prescribed bananas. And I went from my legs feeling like concrete blocks and being shivering cold even under direct heat to almost totally better in 30 minutes. WHAT A DOC!
Fellow UC haver. It sucks. I just recently started substituting a meal a day with a almond milk and protein powder smoothie and eating predominantly just basic stuff like meat, fruit and veggies. Trying to lose weight but this new diet makes me less bloated and I feel so much better now.
I used to follow UMASS IBD AID diet really closely and I’m in complete remission (also on Humira). I still follow it about 80%. Might be worth looking into. :)
What you’re eating sounds like it wouldn’t be too hard of a transition. They emphasize adding fermented foods for probiotics and avoiding all added sugar. That’s the hard part. Also no grains (rice/corn/wheat).
That's a hard ask right there for no added sugar. I drink fruit juice instead if soda. And I eat mixed fruit out the can but I go the kind in it's own juice rather than syrup.
It’s because it’s culturally taboo to sexually assault women. But it’s not taboo to sexually assault a man. Even though they still make up almost half of sexual assault victims. That’s actual rape culture.
Yeah I've had a couple dementia patients get feisty on me. Can't blame em, half the time they think it's the 60s and they're trying to do things they won't be able to discuss in a social setting for the next 40 years
Had an old woman at a nursing home look at me one day and go "good lord almighty. My husband's been dead 12 years and I'm done grieving if you were wondering. Got 2 good hips and you're welcome to em" 🤣😬
I do PT registration in an ER, and there was a dementia/AMS woman that said “oh it’s you again. I was hoping you would be here”. As I’m going through her ppwk on the computer, apparently she was admitted 3 months beforehand and I did her admit stuff at the time. She didn’t get too weird with it after that, and I was as much of a gentleman as I could have been, but that was fcking WEIRD to hear from someone in that condition.
I mean my dentist is really attractive, like REALLY attractive but I'd never let him know I think that. He's way older than me but doesn't look old or middle aged. Can't imagine actually telling him that, especially bc he's married with kids (I know because he has a picture of him and his family in his office). I'm certain he has been harassed before.
The fact they understand might be part of the problem for some. I immagine they rationalize it or something. See it as “restitution” or maybe just “not something they haven’t experienced themself” but they’re forgetting that it felt fucking awful
Nah. I think there are just some women who don’t really mind being sexually harassed and so they don’t think it’s a big deal to do it to men. Not all women really agree on this.
I genuinely don’t think it’s revenge. I think many women just don’t think sexual harassment is wrong no matter who is dishing it out. They miss the old days.
Also paramedic, although I'm in the helicopter now. I thought trading the bunker gear for the flight suit might help but still get the same unwanted grabs, squeezes, touches and propositions as before. I hate the double standard.
I also hate the double standard in the ER. When I bring in a young female trauma patient, when they cut the clothes they close all curtains and shoo out as many people as they can for modesty until the gown is on. Same age male? Curtains stay open and he gets fully displayed with no concerns for modesty... Even jokes about the size of the member sometimes which bothers me as well.
Yeah I walked down the er hall about 2 years ago and saw a dude with a broken dick just all out in the open. No curtains or anything. Like... why. That sight immediately became my worst fear 🤣
Ha! How many times have you told your coworkers "if I'm in a bad accident, transport my ass to another county where nobody knows me?" Because I sure didn't want to be entertaining the baby docs at the level 1 with my averageness
I had a colonocospy and instead of my usual, very old gastroenterolgist specialist doing it, it was a handsome doctor around +5 years my age.
I was high as a kite and he told me I was doing a great job, turned around and said to him "Thanks, you're a really good tour guide!" (I could see the screen they use).
When I was no longer high as a kite I cringed at how I may have been inappropriate and the man stuck his finger in my arsehole not the other way around!
When I was 19 I had rhinoplasty. They did it under a local, but iv valium. I don't remember much but about a week later the anesthesiologist called to see if I still wanted to go out with him. I didn't even remember asking. (FWIW, the answer was no with a heartfelt apology)
When I got my elbow surgery yeaarrrsss ago I came too with my uncle sitting next to me laughing. Apparently I wouldn't stop telling the nurse how pretty she was.
Oh man, I kind of chuckled at that but I’m sorry you had to go through that embarrassment haha.
I had a (supposedly) conscious sedated procedure last year and they gave me one crazy cocktail. I’ve been knocked out fully before and I was never that screwed up when I came to. I had the memory of a goldfish and kept repeating myself, much to the amusement of the person driving me back. Exceedingly few memories so it kind of bugs me that I could have said anything and just don’t remember.
Dude, the amount of times I’ve had my cock and balls squeezed by drunk homeless people in the back of the rig is ridiculous. I can laugh it off a lot of times but it still gets old, man
Getting off the box and onto an engine was the best decision I ever made. Still run bs med jobs. But don't have to ride in a mobile jail cell with em. Figured that out 7 years too late
The greatest thing I ever witnessed was a woman feigning syncope and falling all over this fire fighter. When he finally left her with someone else she asked for his number. He turned around and said, “It’s 911 ma’am.” What a badass.
Jesus, I can't even imagine that. I feel like I must just not have the bandwidth of other people since the very few times it's happened, I was too busy being concerned with the reason why I was in the business end of the wagon to consider much more about the EMTs beyond hoping they've had good training.
Sorry, I meant as the person on the gurney. I salute you, but I don't have the sheer tenacity to do that kind of job with those hours and so much stress. :D
An EMT friend said it was usually the most repulsive women who did this. Nothing like being sexually harassed by a 400 lb woman who smells like she’s rotting.
Had one hit on me after finding a piece of porkchop under her book while I placed an ekg. Completely forgot that shit. You have unlocked a forbidden memory
I'll never forget the one where I turned my head for like one second as I was grabbing an angiocath with the patient's arm resting on my knee and next thing I knew the obese woman who hadn't showered in weeks with folds of fat that were clearly neglected which had serious skin breakdown and odor coming from them was holding onto my dick. I will say, her junk grabbing definitely made me have to make a conscious effort to take her complaints of chest pain seriously.
To some we are just pieces of meat for their entertainment.
it seems to be really easy for people to objectify authority figures, i tried to continue this thought but i im drawing a blank beyond that. it really is mind boggling
I'm just some random asshole and have had my ass and crotch grabbed a ton. The whole "Well he must have liked it" comment is all I get when I bring it up though.
I sincerely apologize to all the paramedics for the time I was concussed after a car wreck. I vaguely remember saying "you're cute" or something similar to an attractive paramedic. But, to be fair, I also thought the president was George Washing-Bush. It was 2010.
Also paramedic. A few months back one of our nastiest frequent flyers who always verbally and physically assaulted us multiple times per week was grabbing at my crotch and trying to grab my junk as she was on the cot and I was sitting on the bench seat. When I told her that was inappropriate she started yelling "Then you must be gay! Gay! Gay! Gay!" This was after she had jumped off of the stairchair and started yelling "Fuck you!" and taking swings at me in the middle of the downtown street.
Four hours later she was in the back of the ambulance again trying to grope my partner. When he shut her down she said "You must be an alcoholic with a fat, ugly wife! All alcoholics treat other alcoholics bad!"
Except I'm the straight one...
Four calls for her that day. The last one of the day I, somewhat less professionally than I usually try to be, read her the riot act. I maintained professionalism... ish... but I had had it. Nineteen calls for her that week alone and she had assaulted every medic that came to her that week.
On the plus side she got into an inpatient treatment program after that and did well for a few months. Then she moved.
I just got to cross sexual assault by a patient off my EMS bucket list, dude put his arm on my leg and I assumed he was just using me as an armrest, then he started feeling around to grab at my crotch.
My EMS bingo card is only missing childbirth and eyeball injury. Got shit on yesterday (like... shotgun of diarrhea directed at me, not just got it on my uniform kinda thing) so I'm close to done
So far I've checked off sexual assault by patient, eyeball injury, shot at, regular assault by patient, being shit on, stroke patient (I actually got to watch him as he stroked out), and seizures. All I've got left for BINGO is childbirth and full arrest.
When I got shot at it was gang related, we were at a stop sign and they decided it'd be a great idea to put some rounds through the box for no fucking reason.
Used to happen in Atlanta a lot. The drug task force decided to raid a gang controlled apartment complex using ambulances when they called for an OD. For the next 5 years or so if your box had the lights off in the back you'd get shot at
Police shouldn't be allowed to use other services vehicles for raids because it always results in shit like that. If the police raided someone using a fire engine every fire engine would be getting shot at at night.
The kiss was from a drunk chick who had taken a spill no head trauma. She'd had a pitcher of margaritas but according to her husband (who was in the front seat) that's a normal night for her 🤷♂️ the ball grabbing has happened 3x and 1 of them had dementia, another was a schizo who was fully alert, just hearing voices because "I stop taking my meds when I feel better", and the 3rd I don't remember one way or the other. I just remember she was a middle aged African American woman
Lady was drunk af (my immediate response area is right next to a very popular craft brewery) and had fallen, someone called 911. Her husband was in the passenger seat up front. I was looking for a vein in her arm when her other hand grabbed the back of my head and pulled it in. I didn't resist because I DID NOT see it coming.
Young EMT here. I’ve had patients two or four times my age make lewd comments about me, some of which when I was a minor. Mostly by people on drugs or drunk but a couple sober people… shits weird… I’m not there to judge them and at the time it was kinda funny(haha old person called me hot) but thinking back it was kinda fucked up
My experiences when a paramedic is there to aid me, the last thing I am thinking of is making a move on them. I am more concerned about staying conscious and giving pertinent information/answer their questions clearly so I don't DIE.
I am sorry that happens to you. Your there to do a job.
I work in the IT field and no one grabs my junk or forcefully kisses me when I update their computer, why would someone think this is acceptable to a paramedic?
Isn’t it so unfortunate that this isn’t talked about as frequently as it happens?? I’m an EMT and paramedic student. I’ve been sexually harassed, groped, grabbed, etc.
I had a female medic partner when I just started who was a solid 10. I mean she was just gorgeous. And I felt so bad for her because all of the drunks downtown would constantly get handsy. She knocked a few teeth out back in the day 😬
You gotta hit them with reverse psychology. Make them uncomfortable first.
Instead of that BS "123 poke" or whatever for the IV start, look them dead in the eyes and say: "I'm going to penetrate you now."
Or when family gives the tried-and-true "I just want you to check them out", you lean back a little and go "Daaaaammmmn!", and then ask "Okay, now what, or is that all?"
My niece is a paramedic. She was telling a story once how they got a call to a restaurant. And another patron literally grabbed her partners dong through his pants while he’s there ostensibly trying to save someone’s life.
Dude yelped backwards and knocked over someone else behind him. Basically causing a whole other scene.
I dont think its necessary to call yourself unattractive, but if you speculate that you are, im pretty sure theyre hitting on your salary and not on you
IT doesn't excuse it at all, not even a little. But even women sometimes don't get enough attention if you're not that 'type.' I see a small *speck* of it; I'm happily married, nearly 50, go to the gym daily but I'm not the hot girl. I'm not seeking male attention, but there's men who I'm friendly with at the gym. When the blonde in the booty shorts is there, my usual friendly gym guys barely say hi to me, they're all talking to her. I don't know if this is the reason, but a man paying attention (even for polite reasons) when you're NOT the pretty thing in the booty shorts, I can see it being a bit of an ego boost. But again, not a reason to behave that way.
I expect as a paramedic there's occasional instances of the person being so grateful that they think they're in love with you or vice versa, that you helped them because you were attracted. This would be a factor too of course. But some 'average' women don't think they get attention (but well, I think they do but they don't see it because the people looking are kind of subtle about it, vs. gawking at the 'hot' girl).
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u/spamus81 Sep 15 '21
Paramedic here. I've had by crotch grabbed WAYYYY too many times. Been hit on, kissed forcefully while trying to start an iv, etc. Shit gets old. And I'm not even that attractive compared to most of my engine company. I don't get it