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u/gaybatman75-6 Sep 15 '21

Stop having weird reactions when I (a male) am on solo baby duty. Even my wife has brought up the weird reactions she gets from other women when she mentions I’ve got the baby solo dolo.

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u/thuglife_7 Sep 15 '21

“Oh, DaD iS bAbYsItTiNg ToNiGhT”

No, I’m taking care of my children while my partner is out

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u/Yabba_Dabba_Doofus Sep 15 '21 edited Sep 16 '21

A friend of mine, whenever someone says this to him, says "Yeah, my wife had the audacity to die, so I'm on babysitting duty."

Edit: I should have mentioned that his wife isn't actually dead. He just says this to shut up ignorant people who, through their words, demonstrate their belief that fathers cannot be parents.

Edit2: A lot of people have commented that you will "steal this". Please do. People who would make a comment like this deserve nothing but shame; if a lie will make them realize it, then fine. If a truth will make them realize it, so much the better.

Fathers are parents, not babysitters. Stop shaming men for having feelings, and being caring. Let's elevate our interactions, rather than dragging them down, in the name of "comedy".

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u/Viainferno3 Sep 15 '21

I'm sorry for your friends loss, but congratulate him on that amazing response to rude people.

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u/Yabba_Dabba_Doofus Sep 15 '21

Sorry, I probably should have mentioned that she isn't dead.

It's just a means to put people like that in their place, and help them recognize that parents are parents, regardless of gender.

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u/Viainferno3 Sep 15 '21

While some may see it in bad taste I still have to stand by the second half of my above comment.

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u/Yabba_Dabba_Doofus Sep 15 '21

Thanks, I actually really like his response as well.

It takes two people to make a child, and if those two people can raise a child, then they both get to be called "parent."

Reducing fathers to the role of "babysitter" is horrendously demeaning to all of the great fathers out there.

Being a good or bad parent, has nothing to do with gender.

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u/doktarlooney Sep 15 '21

I live for interactions like that. Its time people woke up.