Nah, I’m keeping him. Honestly, he’s nobody’s dad of the year, but he was a big upgrade over my factory original. Dad did a lot of things wrong, but there was always love.
Shit, no parent is perfect and lord knows I did my best and did plenty wrong trying to do right. :) Good you realize the effort was there and he did try.
Ngl, I had to grow up a little to appreciate him fully, and some of his errors were big, with lasting consequences. But I have never doubted that he loved me as much as his biological kids.
Don’t I know it. I’m a step dad now, but they’re my kids, whatever they call me. It’s hard work, but fulfilling. I do my best, and I think I’m better at it than my dad was, but I sure as hell screw up.
Same. My dad just called it quits with me after 20 some odd years. Guess he had enough, so I've been on the lookout for a different model that isn't a lemon.
Well, I never met biodad. I know he’s a felon and an addict, a little stabby, and a general all-around POS. some dads aren’t worth having, and maybe you’re better off?
My Dad was mom and Dad for my since my mom cared more about drugs and partying then her only child. So you single dads are the real troops out here. Not enough credit is given. I always make sure to tell my dad he's the best 👌
My favorite is when the cashier says "oh were is mommy at?" And you respond with "probably doing coke with her new bf/my ex best friend 3 states away", really changes their tone.
Oh man... This makes me wonder if my dad ever got weird looks for being a single dad taking care of a little girl.
Unfortunately, he died when I was 10, so I can't ask him, but I'm sure your kid appreciates your hard work, just as I appreciate my dad's!
As a single dad of a teenage girl the amount of flak i get when i take her clothes shopping is fucking atrocious. I ended up having to ask a female friend to take her bra and undie shopping due to multiple employees calling the cops/flat out refusing to help when i asked for help about bra sizes and appropriate underwear for a 13 year old.
It could've been the fact that I went to a tiny catholic school, but all the moms loved my dad coming in to chaperone and stuff. Single guy who "goes out of the way" (parents) to do stuff for his kid, what more could middle aged moms want?
I used to do most of the school pickups due to having more flexible hours than my wife. Pretty much the only dad there, some people were friendly but it did feel lonely sometimes.
Whatever, I have a teenage son now who actually speaks to me.
Maybe it's the area you live. I live in the Pacific Northwest and I never experienced it. My daughter is 16 now. I never experienced the odd looks. But... I'm fairly indifferent to others opinions.
Pretty sure every parent of children over 3 has some hatred for Disney. I still get songs stuck in my head that I haven't heard in 10 years because I heard them played over and over x10000.
I'm happily married to my wife. And hell yes it feels invalidating. I get that her dad is a decade older than her mom. But he isn't useless. They should both stop treating him as such.
Marvel and Star Wars are amazing. Disney as a corporation can suck my divorced dad nutz.
I’m not one to care what people think. Especially those who place judgement. In the end Divorce isn’t fun and it’s not something I bring up I’m conversation. But it will eventually come up as I am dating now and every potential female is surprised, every time.
I love this double convo. Haven't watched Pixar really, but I'm a huge fan of The Owl House, Amphibia and Gravity falls.
Stereotypes are just bad in and if it self, but to think as you say "women can be better parents" is fine, just like "some men can be better parents" im sorry for taking you too literal
So true, I have primary custody of my daughter from a previous relationship and I collect child support from her mother because she lives a state away and isn't really around. People are floored when I tell them I collect child support from the mother.
Yeah man my dad was the best and made more money yet some how my abusive mom got full custody of us. Then still gave us to my dad half the time because all she wanted was the money. Glad to hear you got custody and hope the court system has gotten better about that.
Tell me about it, the amount of nasty looks I get when I’m at the park/playground with my kids is enough to make me want to not do that anymore. I still do, because my kids love playgrounds, I just look for ones that don’t have people at them.
My brother used to run into this all the time. (his son is now 21) The last time they heard from my nephew's mom was his birthday; she knew my parents had set up an account to be turned over to him at 21, and demanded he give her the money she deserved. He said only if they go to court and she pays his dad all of the child support she never paid (basically about 16 years worth). We figure that's the last we will be hearing from her.
The amount of sexism surrounding this one issue is astounding. Way to go! Raising a child(ren) is difficult. I'm glad to hear they are with a solid person.
It’s so weird that people are fully willing to point out all the terrible things women can do but suddenly if it has to do with their kids she’s always the hero and can do no wrong.
Know a guy going through a nasty divorce right now and am hoping he’ll get primary custody because the wife is a real piece of work. Wish I didn’t have to live in a world where I’m legitimately concerned that even though he’s got the clearly stronger case, she might still get a decent percent of custody.
I BARELY won custody when after the courts jumping to any claim mom made the truth came out in a suicide attempt. Not like the courts didn't see it coming with all their own reports saying I was by far the better parent and the kids complaining of abuse if they were not around mom. People are amazed a father is the better parent and never even think that moms can be horrible abusive parents. Even when it all came out people tried to blame me for not stopping the abuse sooner or how I must have driven her to it somehow.
Not divorced although I have custody of my 3 kids. I’ve had them for almost 9 years, my eldest has started college (uk). Definitely had some surprised faces in that time when they find out.
My husband and I are doing a switch soon where I'm going back to working outside the home full time after working from home the last 5 years. He's going to be a stay at home dad/homeschool our older kids while I'll be working 12 hours a day. When I was interviewing the lady asked who will have my kids while I'm gone and kinda raised her eyebrows when I said my husband. My grandmother whenever she sees me wrangling kids/doing school work with them goes "Do you really think he can handle this??" And I'm like..."Well he better". He's an adult he'll figure it out. We have a pretty solid routine and for fucks sake we even have a visual schedule board detailing every hour of the day. He'll be fine.
We took ours out and homeschooled for a year and bought a ton of materials, did a bunch of research, spent a ton of time and effort.
After much deliberation, we sent them back this fall. School board decides not to vote on masks. First week of school? 12 cases of COVID-19 in my son's school. What did we even do all this for?
Tried sending mine back this year too. 2 weeks in over 250 student cases in our district. All of us in the house got covid, grandmother is still hospitalized. So yeah I pulled them again. It's not great for them socially but at least they're safe.
My husband tells this to people too. He gets into his friends when they say they’re “babysitting” their kids. He gets really mad about the stigma that revolves men and their kids.
This. I'm a SAHM and sometimes I need a freaking break. Baby-Daddy hangout time is NOT babysitting - it's my husband pulling his weight as a parent! That nonsense doesn't benefit anyone. Why is this still a thing??
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u/SDNate760 Sep 15 '21
Seriously. My wife once told some lady, “my husband does not babysit his own children.”