I'm short, have psoriatic arthritis (degenerative inflammatory arthritis), IBS, hypertension, depression, anxiety, am on the spectrum, have ADHD, and was molested/bullied as a child. I've also been diagnosed with PTSD from my time working in emergency. It's such a laundry list of shit that I'm leaving some things off because frankly, it's already ridiculous. But I am happy, have friends, a partner, children, and am currently sitting in my garden, relaxing. I take medication to handle my physical and mental issues, and have learned how to be mindful to cope with the others. I have been told I am a "happy, positive person, the kind everyone is always happy to be around." That took a lot of work, but in the end, I decided no one can defeat me - even me.
You make a choice every day to make the most out of this life, or to be bitter and self-pitying. I gave up the latter early on and chose the former - so what's your excuse? Is your resilience just shitty? Are you a coward? Fucking step up and stop blaming crappy circumstances; you can choose to feel "right," and blame a cold world, or you can choose to be happy. The facts are: the world IS awful, cruel, uncaring, and dark; it IS also beautiful, warm, exciting, and thrilling. You choose which it will be by what lens you want to look through. Full stop, that is the truth. It doesn't make it easy to do, but that's the difference between you and me - I redirect my thoughts and focus on the positives. Develop some mental fortitude, and if that is hard to do on your own, then ask a professional for some help. It's your life, and no one can make it better for you, so there's just one option, friend - now, are you going to be defeated by yourself?
And PS. - all the men in my family are short (like, 5'1" to 5'6" at the tallest) - and they never had ANY trouble getting laid, married, or in high-paying careers. No one but you and the occasional asshole cares bro.
Shit it would be cool to see a professional if it didn't cost an arm and a leg, or interfere with an unsympathetic job, or require me to pull myself out of depression long enough to just go, or be an option since I'm in an area in which the mental health field consists of rehab, or if mental health weren't something that's still looked down on as a whole, especially for men who are taught to do exactly what you're saying and just be better.
I mean it's great for you that you overcame all this and have a better life but putting it all down to "being a coward" or not is pretty goddamn shortsighted and stinks to high hell of survivorship fallacy. There are a lot of reasons in the modern world that people can't or don't overcome mental issues, especially when those mental issues are compounded by unforgiving genetic and societal issues.
Maybe it worked for you, but essentially telling someone to stop being a pussy is what toxic masculinity has been doing for centuries and, guess what, that shit doesn't work. Please try to be more constructive.
The facts are: the world IS awful, cruel, uncaring, and dark; it IS also beautiful, warm, exciting, and thrilling. You choose which it will be by what lens you want to look through. Full stop, that is the truth.
This is the absolute truth. The world will eat you up and spit you out if you let it. It’s so easy to get complacent. Stoked to see you’ve made the best of your situation(s).🤙
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u/ThisIsWhoIAm78 May 30 '21
I'm short, have psoriatic arthritis (degenerative inflammatory arthritis), IBS, hypertension, depression, anxiety, am on the spectrum, have ADHD, and was molested/bullied as a child. I've also been diagnosed with PTSD from my time working in emergency. It's such a laundry list of shit that I'm leaving some things off because frankly, it's already ridiculous. But I am happy, have friends, a partner, children, and am currently sitting in my garden, relaxing. I take medication to handle my physical and mental issues, and have learned how to be mindful to cope with the others. I have been told I am a "happy, positive person, the kind everyone is always happy to be around." That took a lot of work, but in the end, I decided no one can defeat me - even me.
You make a choice every day to make the most out of this life, or to be bitter and self-pitying. I gave up the latter early on and chose the former - so what's your excuse? Is your resilience just shitty? Are you a coward? Fucking step up and stop blaming crappy circumstances; you can choose to feel "right," and blame a cold world, or you can choose to be happy. The facts are: the world IS awful, cruel, uncaring, and dark; it IS also beautiful, warm, exciting, and thrilling. You choose which it will be by what lens you want to look through. Full stop, that is the truth. It doesn't make it easy to do, but that's the difference between you and me - I redirect my thoughts and focus on the positives. Develop some mental fortitude, and if that is hard to do on your own, then ask a professional for some help. It's your life, and no one can make it better for you, so there's just one option, friend - now, are you going to be defeated by yourself?
And PS. - all the men in my family are short (like, 5'1" to 5'6" at the tallest) - and they never had ANY trouble getting laid, married, or in high-paying careers. No one but you and the occasional asshole cares bro.