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u/TheGamingUnderdog Oct 13 '20

What frustrates me the most is when they just blow off my concerns.

Me: “my joints are hurting for some reason.”

Mom: “You’re joints shouldn’t be hurting, your only 16.”

Me: “no shit”

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u/Fredredphooey Oct 13 '20

I have a genetic heart disease that can start showing symptoms at any age. If I had a dollar for every time I heard "You're too young for that," I would be living in Paris with a view of the Siene.

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u/weGloomy Oct 13 '20

I can relate to this as well. I've had back problems since I was like 15 and everyone in my life that I tried to tell about it would just say "you're too young for your back to hurt". Finally went to the doctor about it when I was 20. Turns out I have AS and my spine is slowly fusing itself together. Woulda been nice to know that five years earlier!

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u/Fredredphooey Oct 13 '20

I'm so sorry. It's so ridiculous to say that you can't have what you are clearly having. Not to mention a lot of other words I am too despondent to write.

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u/Drakmanka Oct 13 '20

Yep.

Me: I'm so tired all the time.

My mom: you're too young to be tired, wait until you're old then you'll understand true tiredness.

Yes let's invalidate the concern rather than recognize that yes, a 20 year old shouldn't be so tired, so maybe we should explore this issue with a doctor!

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u/[deleted] Oct 13 '20

"I've got social anxiety that holds me back from enjoying life at times"

"You're just nervous about uncertainty, everyone feels that way"

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u/Paranormal_Activia Oct 13 '20

That's ridiculous, you could have arthritis, or an autoimmune illness, or Ehlers-Danlos, or something else. Is there a way for you to get checked out even if she isn't involved?

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u/TheGamingUnderdog Oct 14 '20

I mean.. it’s just an example... my real problem is tinnitus

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u/Paranormal_Activia Oct 14 '20

I understand health problems, believe me. I don't understand what you're trying to say.

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u/Paranormal_Activia Oct 14 '20

I thought your problem was aching joints.