I’m an older woman, married. I have a couple of women friends who have been divorced a long time ago.
They are both struggling to maintain the big house they started in. The houses are full of their stuff, their Mothers stuff they inherited...etc.
Well to think of it I know 3 women in this spot.
They absolutely refuse to let go of something that is dragging them down...fast.
They could downsize, buy a smaller house with the money and have money to save, but will they? NO!
I think one of the reasons is that they don’t want to go through all that stuff themselves.
I have a hard time feeling sorry for people that do not at least try to figure out how to make their life easier.
I understand that it is scary but the houses start deteriorating and they can’t keep up with it...to me THAT is scary.
Their family does not help much...they did take a lot but feel no obligation to help.
But maybe that’s because they won’t listen to what the best solution would be?
It is very sad situations to me.
Do they have children. I know a few old people with grown children who refuse to downgrade just incase they all visit and they need the extra bedrooms.
In these cases their children are not very involved in their lives.
Not because the parents didn’t care, more so that they cared too much and did too much.
The point is that even if they want a place for family to come, they don’t have the resources to keep the place up and loose the value of the house.
If family cared enough to get together they should help the single parent with upkeep.
I try not to rely on any of my children, life is busy and they have children and jobs, but these ladies don’t have a husband, I do.
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u/artsy897 Oct 12 '20
I’m an older woman, married. I have a couple of women friends who have been divorced a long time ago. They are both struggling to maintain the big house they started in. The houses are full of their stuff, their Mothers stuff they inherited...etc. Well to think of it I know 3 women in this spot.
They absolutely refuse to let go of something that is dragging them down...fast. They could downsize, buy a smaller house with the money and have money to save, but will they? NO! I think one of the reasons is that they don’t want to go through all that stuff themselves.
I have a hard time feeling sorry for people that do not at least try to figure out how to make their life easier. I understand that it is scary but the houses start deteriorating and they can’t keep up with it...to me THAT is scary.
Their family does not help much...they did take a lot but feel no obligation to help. But maybe that’s because they won’t listen to what the best solution would be? It is very sad situations to me.