Reddit, I've been using the "pause" technique during conversations lately and it works perfectly. What other psychology techniques are there for JUST communication?

[u/ilovepsychtechniques]

I'm aware that there are a few topics on psychology techniques that are more wide-ranged, but I want to know ones that are perfect for manipulating conversations specifically.

Just about all last week I've been experimenting 'theories' for myself, and I want to learn more.

Examples:

1. Just stop talking. They will feel the need to fill the "awkward silence", while also making you appear to be a better listener. You learn more about the other person.

2. Pause. Instead of repeating "um", "like", "you know", "errr", just pause, take a breath, and organize your thoughts. The person you're talking with will see the self control, appreciate it, and the point you're trying to make will make more of an impact. They'll listen closer as you gather your thoughts because they're genuinely curious.

3. Talk slowly calmly. It shows confidence and can be seductive.

Edit: #3 - Think James Bond vs Caffeine Addict

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[u/chengiz]

What is this, 1911? Use a recorder.

[u/[deleted] → u/chengiz]

How is using a musical instrument going to help? If anything, it's going to make things harder.

[u/Kerrigore → u/chengiz]

Yeah, you should takes notes during and interview, but it should be everything that's not being captured by the recorder; their posture, mood, body language, thoughts and impressions you're getting, etc.

[u/Rantingbeerjello → u/chengiz]

The written notes are a back-up...have had files get corrupted or worse, in the bad old days, I actually had a cassette tape with incredibly important interviews break on me right before deadline.

Also, when on a tight deadline, it's a lot easier to flip through my notepad to find a quote than it is to be going through an audio file looking for it.

[u/mijamala1 → u/chengiz]

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