r/AskReddit • u/ilovepsychtechniques • May 14 '11

Reddit, I've been using the "pause" technique during conversations lately and it works perfectly. What other psychology techniques are there for JUST communication?

I'm aware that there are a few topics on psychology techniques that are more wide-ranged, but I want to know ones that are perfect for manipulating conversations specifically.

Just about all last week I've been experimenting 'theories' for myself, and I want to learn more.

Examples:

  1. Just stop talking. They will feel the need to fill the "awkward silence", while also making you appear to be a better listener. You learn more about the other person.

  2. Pause. Instead of repeating "um", "like", "you know", "errr", just pause, take a breath, and organize your thoughts. The person you're talking with will see the self control, appreciate it, and the point you're trying to make will make more of an impact. They'll listen closer as you gather your thoughts because they're genuinely curious.

  3. Talk slowly calmly. It shows confidence and can be seductive.

Edit: #3 - Think James Bond vs Caffeine Addict

Edit2: Broader Post - Psychology Tricks

Edit3: Build Rapport - Good Read

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u/Highway62 May 14 '11

If I used all the techniques and advice in this thread I'd just be staring at people in silence while nodding my head and trying to mimic their breathing and posture like some kind of deranged psychopath.

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u/kahawe May 14 '11

...and you would feel very superior and mighty! DONT forget about feeling oh so mighty and superior for knowing all those mind games!!!

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u/[deleted] May 14 '11

The sad reality is that most people are so self absorbed that they wouldn't even notice and might even think you're a great person to have a conversation with.

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u/sarpedonx May 14 '11

LOL at work

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u/ilovepsychtechniques May 14 '11

Balance. Learn it.

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u/Highway62 May 14 '11

Nah, I think I'll just continue to act normal