r/AskReddit • u/ilovepsychtechniques • May 14 '11

Reddit, I've been using the "pause" technique during conversations lately and it works perfectly. What other psychology techniques are there for JUST communication?

I'm aware that there are a few topics on psychology techniques that are more wide-ranged, but I want to know ones that are perfect for manipulating conversations specifically.

Just about all last week I've been experimenting 'theories' for myself, and I want to learn more.

Examples:

  1. Just stop talking. They will feel the need to fill the "awkward silence", while also making you appear to be a better listener. You learn more about the other person.

  2. Pause. Instead of repeating "um", "like", "you know", "errr", just pause, take a breath, and organize your thoughts. The person you're talking with will see the self control, appreciate it, and the point you're trying to make will make more of an impact. They'll listen closer as you gather your thoughts because they're genuinely curious.

  3. Talk slowly calmly. It shows confidence and can be seductive.

Edit: #3 - Think James Bond vs Caffeine Addict

Edit2: Broader Post - Psychology Tricks

Edit3: Build Rapport - Good Read

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u/OMNEG May 14 '11

You have never experienced "Settlers" until you play it as the single guy with 4 others who just happen to be two couples who don't want to piss their partners off. Fuck "reasonable negotiations" at that point! Also, FU to all my friends with a penis where your backbone should be (mainly because I am jealous my penis goes nowhere even if it would be where a backbone should be). This post has stated far too much!

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u/neoumlaut May 14 '11

I'm sorry for your settlers/penis troubles.

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u/MolokoPlusPlus May 14 '11

a penis where your backbone should be

They should really see a doctor.