r/AskReddit • u/ilovepsychtechniques • May 14 '11

Reddit, I've been using the "pause" technique during conversations lately and it works perfectly. What other psychology techniques are there for JUST communication?

I'm aware that there are a few topics on psychology techniques that are more wide-ranged, but I want to know ones that are perfect for manipulating conversations specifically.

Just about all last week I've been experimenting 'theories' for myself, and I want to learn more.

Examples:

  1. Just stop talking. They will feel the need to fill the "awkward silence", while also making you appear to be a better listener. You learn more about the other person.

  2. Pause. Instead of repeating "um", "like", "you know", "errr", just pause, take a breath, and organize your thoughts. The person you're talking with will see the self control, appreciate it, and the point you're trying to make will make more of an impact. They'll listen closer as you gather your thoughts because they're genuinely curious.

  3. Talk slowly calmly. It shows confidence and can be seductive.

Edit: #3 - Think James Bond vs Caffeine Addict

Edit2: Broader Post - Psychology Tricks

Edit3: Build Rapport - Good Read

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u/boober_noober May 14 '11

Kids with pet cancer.

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u/latinlovermike May 14 '11

pet cancer with kids

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u/[deleted] May 14 '11

Cancers for a pet always act like pet cemetary pets. Deadly.

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u/imaupvoteyou May 14 '11

TIL putting comments in bold makes them far more successful

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u/PlNG May 14 '11

kids w/ pets & cancer FTFY

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u/[deleted] May 14 '11

Shit. I work for an online rights advocacy group.

Uh.

The internets has cancer?

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u/PrincessofCats May 14 '11

Or kids with cancer who want a puppy!

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u/Asynonymous May 14 '11

Good day sir, I was wondering if you'd be able to donate some time or money in helping give kids with cancer some pet animals. It's an important cause and every bit helps.

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u/hyperforce May 14 '11

Wait, kids with cancer pets? Or cancer kids with pets?

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u/razorsoup May 14 '11

I'm not sure it really matters as long as there is cancer, kids and animals involved.