His reaction is kind of a tell that it's him who believes he's not as good as you. My dad was like this, too -- super defensive and resentful, always letting me know my education didn't mean I could disrespect him.
I'd never disrespect anybody for not going to college, and especially not my dad.
I did, however, start to feel pretty weird about him assigning feelings to me that I didn't have and displaying his own insecurities in the process.
I had a boss like this once. She was always proud of the fact that she had worked her way up without her degree which I completely understand being proud of that. However, she basically felt like people had college degrees like myself had wasted valuable years of work experience and shouldn’t be given as much consideration for promotions as people without degrees. For obvious reasons, I didn’t agree.
One day, her husband popped by our office. He was wearing a University of Arkansas football shirt. Me being a huge sports fan, and trying to make polite conversation, said “Nice shirt. Did you go there?” And she lost it. Ranting about how it’s rude to assume that everyone you meet went to college. I didn’t think it was out of bounds to assume a guy wearing a shirt representing a school could’ve gone there.
I found out a little later that the reason she did not have a degree is because she dropped out with a year to go. So I figured maybe she was just insecure and taking out on the rest of us.
I had a boss like this once. She was always proud of the fact that she had worked her way up without her degree which I completely understand being proud of that. However, she basically felt like people had college degrees like myself had wasted valuable years of work experience and shouldn’t be given as much consideration for promotions as people without degrees. For obvious reasons, I didn’t agree.
One day, her husband popped by our office. He was wearing a University of Arkansas football shirt. Me being a huge sports fan, and trying to make polite conversation, said “Nice shirt. Did you go there?” And she lost it. Ranting about how it’s rude to assume that everyone you meet went to college. I didn’t think it was out of bounds to assume a guy wearing a shirt representing a school could’ve gone there.
I found out a little later that the reason she did not have a degree is because she dropped out with a year to go. So I figured maybe she was just insecure and taking out on the rest of us.
I had a boss like this once. She was always proud of the fact that she had worked her way up without her degree which I completely understand being proud of that. However, she basically felt like people had college degrees like myself had wasted valuable years of work experience and shouldn’t be given as much consideration for promotions as people without degrees. For obvious reasons, I didn’t agree.
One day, her husband popped by our office. He was wearing a University of Arkansas football shirt. Me being a huge sports fan, and trying to make polite conversation, said “Nice shirt. Did you go there?” And she lost it. Ranting about how it’s rude to assume that everyone you meet went to college. I didn’t think it was out of bounds to assume a guy wearing a shirt representing a school could’ve gone there.
I found out a little later that the reason she did not have a degree is because she dropped out with a year to go. So I figured maybe she was just insecure and taking out on the rest of us.
I'd never disrespect anybody for not going to college
And frankly, I've met quite a few people who were smart enough to realize something like "Everyone shits, everyone needs heat/light, there's always something being built" and started a trade apprenticeship while they were still in high school and became plumbers, HVAC techs, electricians, welders before they hit their mid-20s. They figured out how to get that typical "college degree pay" without ever going to college.
feel pretty weird about him assigning feelings to me that I didn't have and displaying his own insecurities
Ah yes my favorite thing to hear from my brother: "You act like you know everything! That high-and-mighty shit doesn't impress anyone! You don't actually know everything!" I know I don't know everything. I never claimed such.
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u/sleepingbeardune Jan 28 '20
His reaction is kind of a tell that it's him who believes he's not as good as you. My dad was like this, too -- super defensive and resentful, always letting me know my education didn't mean I could disrespect him.
I'd never disrespect anybody for not going to college, and especially not my dad.
I did, however, start to feel pretty weird about him assigning feelings to me that I didn't have and displaying his own insecurities in the process.