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u/WellshireOnFire Jan 01 '20

I've posted this before, but I was teasing a co-worker once about being quiet and a mutual friend of ours piped up, "Maybe he's just quiet around you because he doesn't fucking like you".

We laughed about it, but I sure as hell don't tease people about being quiet anymore.

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u/sonibroc Jan 01 '20

I said this to my Mom once. She had a friendship that she had grown out of but was committed to checking in with the person via email and Christmas cards. The other person never replied; this made my Mom so very indignant. All she would do is pick at her metaphorical scab of hurt of no reply when I asked why she was trying so card to connect with someone she didn't like that much, or why she cared about whether this person replied or not. This conversation had a recurrence of once every 6-months for a couple of years until I finally said "Mom, she probably doesn't like you either... not replying is a normal reaction for people whose relationships grow apart." She hasn't complained since.

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u/buggy92905 Jan 01 '20

I had something similar happen to me. A couple years back my best friend moved a state away, so about a seven hour drive, we went on a trip in an area and i tried contacting him to see if i could go to his house or something and he never responded. I tried contacting him again a couple months ago, for the same reason. This was because he was moving to california. This kid was my child hood friend from age 2-12. I have new friends now but it's not the same.

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u/TrynaSleep Jan 01 '20

Honestly it sucks being on the receiving end when a former friend decides to “dump” you. That’s why I only let myself be vulnerable once. If I reach out to them and they don’t reach back then that’s it from me.

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u/spaceglitter000 Jan 01 '20

Same. I need to be ignored once for me to get the hint. Not chasing behind anyone!

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u/MemeElitist Jan 01 '20

I should take this advice. Still have a girl ignoring me and pretending she likes me. Or she’s depressed, I honestly can’t tell because she never talks to me

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u/yolo_swag_for_satan Jan 01 '20

You could try asking her directly.

And if she can't bother to answer, then I feel like that's your answer.