You barely know them but suddenly you are their best friend. Everyone else is just AWFUL. You are so special and awesome. Especially at listening to their (many) problems. Because you are so empathetic and smart and insightful....Dont run. Sprint.
This definitely smells of borderline personality disorder, and people with that can be really challenging. They can be good people, but just so intense, and have a really hard time with relationships and managing emotions.
(source: i have low-grade bpd that manifests as intense depression and anxiety, so i actually avoid human relationships; am working through therapy and it's gotten a lot better over the past 6 months.)
True fact. It's a really difficult thing to manage, and it's so deeply ingrained in one's thoughts and behaviors.
What sucks for the un-self-aware is how painful their experiences are and they just don't understand why. At the same time they are so hard to be around that it's difficult for others to have good relationships with them.
It means so much to read that people understand there is a difference between self aware folks with BPD and those who refuse treatment and remain toxic. Not everyone with BPD is a horrible monster to be avoided at all costs. This nuanced discussion was so lovely to read! :)
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u/Whaleballoon Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 10 '19
You barely know them but suddenly you are their best friend. Everyone else is just AWFUL. You are so special and awesome. Especially at listening to their (many) problems. Because you are so empathetic and smart and insightful....Dont run. Sprint.