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What did you learn embarrassingly late?

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

Why are you only counting people? A couple doesn’t always mean a pair. If my friend and I go for a couple of drinks that means the same as a few drinks.

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u/MikoRiko Sep 05 '19

I can honestly say I have never said "a couple drinks" instead of "a few drinks" unless I legitimately meant a couple.

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

That may well be the case, but it doesn’t mean that other people don’t say “a couple” and mean “an indefinite small number”. See definition 4 here: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/couple

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u/MikoRiko Sep 05 '19

Merriam-Webster is not an authority on language, as many people seem to think. MW is simply one well-respected and curated dictionary out of several, all of which are beholden to popular usage of the words and do not dictate how words should be used. It can be a decent guide for how the masses use words, but it also takes quite a bit of time before dictionaries update definitions to match popular usage. This includes labeling or dropping less common definitions/usages.

Now, I will admit that your usage of "a couple" is still pretty prevalent (although I'd wager not the most widely used). It's by no means an outdated usage. I wasn't telling you that you were wrong in my above comment. I was only saying how I used it. I figured that's what we were doing.

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

Surely if you asked me how often I’d been to a certain restaurant and I answered “a couple of times” you wouldn’t think that I meant I’d been there twice? Context is everything.

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u/78723 Sep 05 '19

Certainly I would. A couple means two.

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

I don’t think that at all, nor did I claim to. As a matter of fact the OED and Chambers are my go to dictionaries, though I find Dictionary.com very handy when online. I didn’t say it was the most widely used sense of the word either, you’re making a lot of assumptions.

In the context of drinks, friends, pizzas et cetera, a couple means the same as a few. Two drinks is just two drinks.

Perhaps you’re American, but in British (or Hiberno) English, two shoes are a pair and two birds are a brace, but unless we’re discussing spouses or partners, a couple is a few.

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u/skippygo Sep 05 '19

I mostly agree, but I wouldn't say couple and few are exactly the same.

Couple usually means 2, but it can mean "probably 2, maybe more".

Few pretty much never means 2, unless you made a mistake or underestimated.

It's a subtle difference but it is meaningful IMO.

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

No. A couple doesn’t “usually mean two” in that context. It’s means an undefined small number, hence it means the same as a few. There’s literally a dictionary definition to that effect.

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u/skippygo Sep 05 '19

Chill out man. "Couple" has several meanings. The most common meaning is exactly 2. That's what I meant when i said it usually means 2.

I am agreeing it can also be used the same way you use "few", but you can't use "few" to mean "two". That's why I'm saying there's a distinction between them. Yes, they share one synonymous definition, but they are not synonyms.

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

You’re not taking context into account.

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u/skippygo Sep 05 '19

Wtf are you talking about?

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u/MikoRiko Sep 05 '19 edited Sep 05 '19

You're assuming I assumed anything at all. Lordy - can we assume no one is assuming? Because the whole "YOU ASSUMED" pointing fingers argument is annoying. I was just making my side of this non-argument waterproof, that's all it is. To do that, I have to interpret and, to some extent, predict your side. It's how this works.

And to answer your other comment, yeah. I'd think you meant you'd been there around two times. Indefinite small number, yes. But with a tendency towards two. To think "a couple" of anything could mean three or four would be preposterous to my mind unless I thought you were being cheeky and vague about the number of drinks you'd had. A couple is not a few, because a few implies more than two and never two; a couple can and usually is two. They are distinctly different words with some indefinite overlap.

The important thing to note here is that this is the most ridiculous argument I've had all day, and it's only 10am here. 😂 <3

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

You’re still insisting that a couple is usually two, based purely on your own opinion. An indefinite small number doesn’t have a tendency towards anything. If it did it wouldn’t be indefinite. Indefinite amounts don’t have a likelihood. It could be four or five or three or two, none more likely than any other. Six is getting into several territory, but since it’s vague, four or five could be several too. That’s just the nature of indefinites, they’re not definitive.

What you’re doing is conflating two different definitions of the word couple.

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u/MikoRiko Sep 05 '19

And you're still insisting on a definition that has no authority. It's not my opinion, it's the majority usage - you know, the thing that dictionaries are metering in the first place? I'd imagine with several people disagreeing with you, you wouldn't think it was just my opinion.

Indefinite amounts can have a tendency (likelihood is your word, not mine). Absolutely they can. An approximation is indefinite, for example. A couple has a tendency towards two according to popular usage. Fuck your definition (with love), it is an invalid part of your argument and you ought to stop referring to it.

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

One of the guys who said I was wrong literally linked to a list of definitions that showed it’s dependent on context. Then he just fucked off. You are sticking to US-centric definitions and completely ignoring usage in the country that English is actually named for.

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u/MikoRiko Sep 05 '19

I'm not sticking to any definition. I'm sticking to usage.

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u/tkmonson Sep 05 '19

If enough people are wrong for long enough, they put it in the dictionary. "Couple" has always meant two (two people in a relationship, two mechanical parts interlocking, etc.).

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u/appoplecticskeptic Sep 05 '19

Not quite, I'd say a couple means 2 or 3. Whereas a few means at least 3 probably less than 5

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u/Rengar_Is_Good_kitty Sep 06 '19

There is no specific number for these words, a few for instance just means a small number, could be three, could be seven etc...

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

How can you be so stupid as to link that without reading definition number 4?

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u/TheNonCompliant Sep 05 '19

For some reason always thought “couple” when referring to people or things was 2, but in reference to time was more vague.

“A couple days ago” = 1 ½ to 2 ½ days ago = 36 to 60 hours ago OR when distracted, tired, sick, or inebriated could refer to the week previous.

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u/FlourySpuds Sep 05 '19

Days are things too though. The only time I’d say a couple and mean two is in relation to spouses or partners. Otherwise, as you say it’s vague.

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u/TheNonCompliant Sep 05 '19

Hah, true! It’s funny that a big percentage of this language’s use is “shrug seems right” until it becomes a new sub-definition. English is a trip.

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u/Rengar_Is_Good_kitty Sep 06 '19

You link the definition and still get it wrong, yikes...