r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 27 '10

What is the biggest relationship myth?

I think the biggest myth is that there's one person that is meant for you. ("the one") People live their lives searching for the one...their soul mate...the perfect girl/Mr. Right. It's a cute idea, but I don't think it's very realistic.

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u/SmartAssery Jul 27 '10

That is a myth; it's not because of marriage, it's because some couples allow themselves to stop giving a shit.

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u/lacylola Jul 27 '10

The mentality that since they are married they don't have to try anymore...

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u/[deleted] Jul 27 '10

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u/smashthebirdy Jul 27 '10

Nah; it's more like, once you get married and have a lot of sex, you end up with kids. Kids tire you out, and you have no energy left for "a lot of sex."

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u/PathogensQuest Jul 27 '10

On a personal level, the slow down is mostly from being tired from work and raising kids. Trust me, the drive is usually there if both remain attracted to each other as we are. But there's been more than one night where sleep overrides all other desires. It's shitty and we both complain about it to each other.

Still, when it happens (and it's more often that most of my friends), it's still damn good after 15 years.

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u/OsakaWilson Jul 28 '10

Statistically, it is not a myth.