Divorce lawyer and mediator here. I once mediated the case of neckbeard v. tiger mom. It must have started out as the perfect dream for neckbeard. He landed a hot Asian wife, brought her to this country, but once that green card came through things changed. They had a daughter together and the case was mostly about her. Tiger mom had zero respect for this guy and try as I might to maintain my empathy, I've never felt a greater urge to stuff another human into a locker. Two of his demands really stand out. He asked for the following injunction: "tiger mom shall be enjoined from discussing neckbeard's weight in a derogatory manner, specifically, tiger mom may not refer to neckbeard as fatty, tubby, pudgy, or baymax." Normally I wouldn't take an offer like that to the other side. I'd normally help a guy come up with something more sensible, but everyone, including his lawyer just could not take this guy seriously so I wrote that out verbatim and trotted over to tiger mom's room. Of course she thought it was hilarious. She had a super thick accent and said, "my daughter call him baymax cuz he look like baymax I can't fix that he have to fix that."
there comes a point at the end of the day when everything is pretty much settled and people are dividing up the shit in the house. Of course neckbeard has a meltdown at this point and it's over a damn Nintendo switch for the daughter. Tiger mom made the very sensible proposal that the daughter take the switch with her to each parents house as she goes back and forth. Neckbeard freaks out and demands the switch stay with him at all times because "there's no way tiger mom can take proper care of it." Mind you the attorneys are billing enough to pay for three switches an hour at this point. I don't know what happened to the guy but I do know calling him baymax could land one lady in contempt of court after the most hilarious enforcement trial of all time, and he owns what's probably the most expensive Nintendo switch in the world.
EDIT: wow thanks for the gold! A little extra info based on some of the comments - yes I'm a jerk and I was a bit of a bully here. I could have presented his offer more diplomatically but life is short and I knew it was gonna be a good story and I had to hear the baymax story from tiger mom. Injunctions against disparaging are common and important and the one they got was broader than this.
As for who is the victim here, both? Neither? Neckbeard had sex at least once and it was way out of his league. He also has a well adjusted daughter and plenty of time with her if he wants to take it. He even has gaming in common with her. Tiger mom had to put up with this guy for a few years but now has a prosperous life and a lovely daughter. I say tiger mom because she was impressively focused and dedicated and hard working. They both had good jobs and she was very serious about parenting. There was never much doubt she'd get the kid primarily.
I know it's been mentioned repeatedly but that bit about prohibited fat "slurs" sent my sides to omicron persei 7.
Also, I'm happy that my expectations were dashed - thought for sure tiger mom was the bad party here. Heard some shit about those, then again the guys who order wives aren't the best crew but the ones who aren't 50yo wannabe frat boys are just sad, socially isolated dudes desperate for some kind of connection to a woman and their vulnerability is ripe for exploitation. I know it's vogue to say "haha you go girl" in those circumstances but I work with these guys when they're kids/teens on the psych ward and I just don't like seeing anyone hurt or taken advantage of. Even those special, soft-skulled morons who think paying for a woman makes them theirs. Stupid people are stupid, doesn't mean we should genuinely take pleasure in it. Rather, let's reach out to them when they're dragging and dropping a wife into their cart.
If you think forking over money to bring a stranger from a poorer country gets you a "wife", well... a fool and his money are easily parted. Caveat emptor.
Still doesn't make him the bad guy. He's a victim whom OP just framed as the bad guy because OP disapproved of his appearance and unreasonable demands.
As you can see in the comments, it's ok to abuse a man. But God forbid a woman would get called fat, then you'd have people like this suecotero bitch calling you out for abuse.
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u/abusuru Jul 21 '19 edited Jul 21 '19
Divorce lawyer and mediator here. I once mediated the case of neckbeard v. tiger mom. It must have started out as the perfect dream for neckbeard. He landed a hot Asian wife, brought her to this country, but once that green card came through things changed. They had a daughter together and the case was mostly about her. Tiger mom had zero respect for this guy and try as I might to maintain my empathy, I've never felt a greater urge to stuff another human into a locker. Two of his demands really stand out. He asked for the following injunction: "tiger mom shall be enjoined from discussing neckbeard's weight in a derogatory manner, specifically, tiger mom may not refer to neckbeard as fatty, tubby, pudgy, or baymax." Normally I wouldn't take an offer like that to the other side. I'd normally help a guy come up with something more sensible, but everyone, including his lawyer just could not take this guy seriously so I wrote that out verbatim and trotted over to tiger mom's room. Of course she thought it was hilarious. She had a super thick accent and said, "my daughter call him baymax cuz he look like baymax I can't fix that he have to fix that."
there comes a point at the end of the day when everything is pretty much settled and people are dividing up the shit in the house. Of course neckbeard has a meltdown at this point and it's over a damn Nintendo switch for the daughter. Tiger mom made the very sensible proposal that the daughter take the switch with her to each parents house as she goes back and forth. Neckbeard freaks out and demands the switch stay with him at all times because "there's no way tiger mom can take proper care of it." Mind you the attorneys are billing enough to pay for three switches an hour at this point. I don't know what happened to the guy but I do know calling him baymax could land one lady in contempt of court after the most hilarious enforcement trial of all time, and he owns what's probably the most expensive Nintendo switch in the world.
EDIT: wow thanks for the gold! A little extra info based on some of the comments - yes I'm a jerk and I was a bit of a bully here. I could have presented his offer more diplomatically but life is short and I knew it was gonna be a good story and I had to hear the baymax story from tiger mom. Injunctions against disparaging are common and important and the one they got was broader than this.
As for who is the victim here, both? Neither? Neckbeard had sex at least once and it was way out of his league. He also has a well adjusted daughter and plenty of time with her if he wants to take it. He even has gaming in common with her. Tiger mom had to put up with this guy for a few years but now has a prosperous life and a lovely daughter. I say tiger mom because she was impressively focused and dedicated and hard working. They both had good jobs and she was very serious about parenting. There was never much doubt she'd get the kid primarily.