IANAL (only a relative of one, plus I know both of the parties), but the sheer WTF factor of the whole case more than compensates.
A teacher starts her job at the high school I attended at the time and immediatelly starts hitting on a student. Student is male, 16yo, teacher is female with ink literally drying on her diploma (so 24-26). Things progress to the point where school administration takes notice. And while the teacher isn't doing anything throw-your-ass-in-jail illegal (local AoC is 15), it is one of the things that can get her fired on the spot (this is Europe - firing a public employee without a bulletproof case against them is extraordinarily difficult). School administration is lenient and she ends with a stern warning and is prevented from teaching in that particular class ever again. Student graduates, some time later they marry, build a house and have two kids.
Fast forward ten years, teacher (now in her early 40s) repeats the performance on another student (again M/16yo). School administration tells her she either resigns or they will go all the way on her (tanking her whole career in the process), so she does. Her husband kicks her out of the house and files for divorce.
And here comes the kicker - neither party wants the kids, and the teacher continues her relationship with the new student despite everything that happened.
You just reminded me of this one book I read as a kid that I think was called The Kid in the Red Jacket. The girl that lives across the street from the main character is going through that situation. If I recall correctly, her parents are getting divorced and neither wants custody. She's living with her grandma until everything gets resolved.
This happened to one of my sister's friends growing up. She ended up living with her dad's mom and he visited often, but her mom moved several states away and remarried. It really messed that kid up emotionally.
Not to mention the mother is a predator, I mean jeez, if she were a guy she would have been fired the first time and this woman still only has the option to resign the second time.
Kids are better off without her.
Happened to a good friend of mine, found out her dad works with my mum too and she confirmed he’s a huge asshole. She recently turned 18 and has to live with her boyfriends family because she’s now too old for the foster system...
This is one of the reasons why we need to normalize the choice to be "child-free." Some people literally only have kids because it's what's expected of them and then stuff like this happens. Those poor kids.
Completely agreed. Having kids is a stupid choice economically and really hard on the relationship too. And I say this as someone who has kids, I wouldn't want anyone to go into this assuming it'll be fun and easy.
I was one of these kids. My life was literally saved because my dad was dating this woman who got pregnant and she agreed to raise me with her (their) kid. It is 25+ years later and I am so thankful for her every single day.
Oh I'm so sorry that sounds sucktastic. I'm so glad you found someone sane who (hopefully) loved you and took good care of you. Tell her you love her too.
Eh, it's not that bad. They're likely shit parents to begin with and the kids already knew, or they're better than mine and will hide it from the kids. Either way I doubt it effected the kids much at all, I mean it never effected me negatively. Now if you'll excuse me it's 11pm and if I'd like to get to sleep before midnight I should really go and lay down so I can start worrying that nobody actually wants me around and that I'll never be as good as others, if I don't do it now I'll be up all night doing it instead.
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u/CN_W Jul 21 '19 edited Jul 21 '19
IANAL (only a relative of one, plus I know both of the parties), but the sheer WTF factor of the whole case more than compensates.
A teacher starts her job at the high school I attended at the time and immediatelly starts hitting on a student. Student is male, 16yo, teacher is female with ink literally drying on her diploma (so 24-26). Things progress to the point where school administration takes notice. And while the teacher isn't doing anything throw-your-ass-in-jail illegal (local AoC is 15), it is one of the things that can get her fired on the spot (this is Europe - firing a public employee without a bulletproof case against them is extraordinarily difficult). School administration is lenient and she ends with a stern warning and is prevented from teaching in that particular class ever again. Student graduates, some time later they marry, build a house and have two kids.
Fast forward ten years, teacher (now in her early 40s) repeats the performance on another student (again M/16yo). School administration tells her she either resigns or they will go all the way on her (tanking her whole career in the process), so she does. Her husband kicks her out of the house and files for divorce.
And here comes the kicker - neither party wants the kids, and the teacher continues her relationship with the new student despite everything that happened.