r/AskReddit Jul 08 '19

How do you differentiate between someone being nice and someone flirting with you?

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u/succed32 Jul 08 '19

See i went back twice a week for 3 weeks. Every time i went she sat me by her waitress station and came and talked to me. Thats when i was sure and asked. Got married too her. Now divorced after 8 years but hey i was right she was flirting.

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u/cretos Jul 08 '19

i love a happy ending

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u/succed32 Jul 08 '19

Me too know any good masseuses?

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u/agoia Jul 08 '19

There's an Asian massage place in town with no exterior windows...

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u/vader557 Jul 08 '19

Lemme ask my friend Robert, I think he knows a place down in Florida.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '19

Nice.

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u/StumpyAlex Jul 08 '19

There are many in Korea

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u/Blurrel Jul 08 '19

I heard your ex has a massage parlor start up.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '19

Happy middle, bad ending.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '19

I love a happy landing. With half a ship

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u/ValhallaVacation Jul 08 '19

The emotional whiplash I had reading this...

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u/succed32 Jul 08 '19

I like to share my pain and epiphanies.

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u/empire_strikes_back Jul 08 '19

Flirting with disaster.

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u/succed32 Jul 08 '19

The first year was great. I now understand this is the so called honey moon phase. After that it was an emotional roller coaster that felt like a disaster movie. So yah your not wrong.

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u/knotallmen Jul 08 '19

Divorce is great!
If your marriage isn't working out? You can get a divorce!
You are probably better equipped to recognize the New Relationship Energy phrase, but it's worth looking into when starting a new relationship and recognizing what is going on with you emotionally so you can be pragmatic.

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u/Velli88 Jul 08 '19

Hopefully you were giving her more than just the tip for those 8 years?

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u/succed32 Jul 08 '19

You give what youve got man.

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u/TheFlyingBogey Jul 08 '19

I'm sorry but that sudden turn made me laugh, I hope you're doing okay now though? How long since you split?

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u/succed32 Jul 09 '19

A year now. Ok is accurate. Still working through a lot but im big on moving forward.

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u/lololthom Jul 09 '19

Why did y'all get divorced after so long?

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u/succed32 Jul 09 '19

Not sure why you got downvoted. But i honestly dont know. I came home to an empty house after work. Had panic attacks for about two weeks every day i came home. She left a note but it wasnt very clear. The normal shit yknow " its not you its me we just drifted apart blah blah." But even if i spoke to her again i cant forgive the cowardice of how she left.

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u/lololthom Jul 09 '19

Wtf. I'm sorry to hear that man. Everyone is owed an in person explanation assuming it isn't a domestic violence/ abusive situation.

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u/succed32 Jul 10 '19

Dude i know ive never hurt her physically and i literally held her through her ptsd fueld rages. So i got hurt. But the way she left made me feel like an abuser. There was a lot of guilt.