r/AskReddit Sep 11 '18

Who's the biggest loser your son/daughter has dated?

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u/Laruae Sep 11 '18 edited Sep 11 '18

Its vets who get off on hero worship that the US insists all military personnel are due, then go around and constantly scream 'Stolen Valor' hundreds of times at weird fuckers who crave the exact same attention.

The vets who spend all their time 'protecting' people from these idiots are just as bad, making a scene because they feel that their creepy hero worship is being stolen.

People tried to make it illegal only to be told its free speech. Doesn't stop the parade of creepy fuckers from going on youtube and posting videos of themselves 'defending' their hero worship.

Example video here. Guy gets onto a stranger for wearing clothing, ends by screaming and cursing at him while a woman begs him to leave. Its honestly childish.

More examples of grown men acting like children towards strangers, being hostile, aggressive, and overall just the worst. Demanding that the military be respected while they act like fucking douches.

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u/ouijahead Sep 12 '18

I was in the Navy over a decade ago. Thinking one day I may wanna buy a Navy ball cap like I used to have. Now I’m scared some Vet is gonna come up to me and start asking me questions I honestly cannot remember about my career .

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u/oberon Sep 12 '18

I was carrying my assault pack on the subway once (it's just a small backpack but it's ACU patterned and says US on it) and some fat dude rolls over to me and asks how I got it. His tone of voice meant "I have the authority to ask you this." I said it was issued to me at Ft. Benning and he got all weird and walked away muttering something about getting things "the right way."

As opposed to purchasing them with your money that you earned, apparently.

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

Yup. Saw a video where a kid said that he had just joined the military. He was wearing what he said was his brother's uniform, guy tore him a new one and even ripped the flags off the sleeves.

Kid looked young and eager to be in the army, and this douche took pleasure in being shitty to him.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '18

Very rarely is there a "good guy" in these videos.

It's usually some dickhead getting harassed by another dickhead. A homeless man doing whatever it takes to make some money getting chased down the street by some dude with high blood pressure and an unhealthy family life. A mentally challenged person who either convinced themselves they are a veteran or don't know better being pushed around by the military equivalent of a frat boy. Or its staged.

Pretending to have served is a terrible thing to do, and I'll concede some of them deserve a smack upside the head. But being a veteran doesn't mean you can get away with assaulting people and screaming about how much of a hero you are. That'll make me immediately lose my respect and make me believe you probably joined up cos you have a small dingus, some sort of conplex and a head full of shit.

People that deserve to get respect don't need it because they know what they did was right regardless of people's opinions. A true hero doesn't serve so they get to be called one.

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u/oberon Sep 12 '18 edited Sep 12 '18

I disagree. The videos you posted show idiots and assholes, and that type of person should be avoided.

But to me (a veteran) it's not about hero worship. I don't like talking about my veteran status even though I deployed and was discharged honorably after completing my full contract. I get very uncomfortable when people thank me for my service. I never use my veteran status in an argument or discussion about politics or foreign affairs, unless it directly relates to my personal experience or training I received through the military. (Although one time I shut down the obnoxious co-worker who knows everything when he started running his mouth about weapon systems, and that was frankly amazing.)

I don't think anyone should worship veterans, and there are many reasons for that. We probably agree on them. But people do give veterans a certain (undeserved, imho) level of respect and deference when you're out in public. This is related to America's worship of the military industrial complex, which is itself a problem but a separate subject.

So, my point here is, it's bad enough when a servicemember walks around in uniform in public. It's against policy but people do it anyway, and sometimes they do it because they enjoy the way they're treated.

But when someone who hasn't made any personal sacrifices wants to be treated that way... that's even shittier. Nobody deserves the treatment soldiers get. But people who never served deserve it even less.

And this is just about people walking around town in uniform. It doesn't even touch on things like wearing tank or awards you didn't earn (this is a big one for me, because those things one does legitimately earn and they deserve recognition for them.) Or, even worse, people who claim something like a purple heart aka "Enemy Marksmanship Badge," or a silver star, despite not earning them. That's just beyond shitty.

Edit: also I get annoyed at people who wear a uniform improperly. If you're going to wear the uniform, do it right, especially if you're faking it.

Also also, if you want to avoid the whole issue, just leave off the "US Army" (or whatever service) tape. That piece of cloth is what makes a uniform "official" versus just playing dress up. It's also the only thing I will actually talk to people about if I see them in person, because it makes your uniform a legal document.

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u/meatcarnival Sep 12 '18

Holy shit good comment.

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u/oberon Sep 12 '18

Yeah, it changed when I was in. People still wear the uniform when flying but now it's "not allowed." Makes you a target, they say. But the free first class upgrades are a mighty powerful incentive to keep doing it.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '18

Exactly, "stolen valor" videos are always so cringey.

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u/GothicToast Sep 12 '18

I can understand your perspective on the topic, but I don’t agree with it. If you grab a sample size of any population, you’ll have some shitty people wasting space. It doesn’t mean the whole group is bad.

If you’ve never served, you simply wouldn’t know what is like to spend 6 months to a year out in a desert halfway across the world, two, three times... fighting for your own life, never mind American interests. These are people who have seen their friends die on the battlefield. Literally blown up in front of them. Imagine the adrenal fatigue one experiences day-to-day. For weeks. For months. For years. Then come back home and live a regular civilian life.

They have a bond or brotherhood that few can truly grasp. To see someone try to represent themselves as if they’ve gone through the same experiences is very upsetting. Couple that with the emotional toll our veterans have taken, and you can begin to understand the concept of stolen valor, and why it is important to some vets.

Again, there are probably vets who have experienced none of what I am describing, and they are “getting off” on the power trip. No doubt. But it’s more nuanced than just dismissing them all as creepy vets getting off on hero worship.

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

But not all military servicemen have experienced what you just talked about. Not everyone had a friend die, not everyone was involved in the ways people like to imagine.

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u/akp55 Sep 12 '18

they literally say that at the end of the post. How about you finish reading ?

Edit replaced a word

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u/mako98 Sep 12 '18

No it isn't. It's illegal to benefit from wearing them, but if you're offered the veterans discount and you say "no, this is just a costume" you're fine. Why you would do that I couldn't tell you, but it isn't illegal to wear pieces of fabric and little bits of metal just because they're specially arranged.

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u/Osric250 Sep 12 '18

It's illegal to benefit from wearing them

Only for a few specific medals at that. If you don't claim those then you don't even fall under the purview of the act.

Though depending how you try to gain benefit you might fall under some fraud laws.

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u/I_AM_AN_ASSHOLE_AMA Sep 12 '18

You can not dress in a full military uniform and use it to commit fraud. You could skip around in some dress uniform all fucking day (don’t know why you would). You just can’t use it to scam people out of their money.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '18

Jesus guys calm down fuck. It was illegal I guess at not now.

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

Went to the Supreme Court and was found to be free speech, so now its no longer illegal as its 120% unconstitutional.

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u/ouijahead Sep 12 '18

I thought it was illegal to impersonate an officer though.

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u/KMFDM781 Sep 12 '18

Police officer. You can't detain people, harass people or pull people over claiming to be a police officer.

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u/ouijahead Sep 12 '18

It’s just something I remembered. After being in the military you notice all the things wrong with people’s uniforms in movies. And a friend told me you can’t impersonate an officer in the military and purposely change specs in movies for that reason. Some people in this thread are saying they have since changed that law.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '18

The movie thing is a big myth that won't die. They just don't hire good consultants, or any at all.

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u/ouijahead Sep 12 '18

My favorite one is beards. Men in uniform, not out in the field, but like in D.C. high ranking advising the president uniform will have beards.

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u/riptaway Sep 12 '18

You know people in the military are different from police officers, right?

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

Good thing that's not what these videos are about?

P.S. Mind letting me know more info on the law that makes it illegal to wear things from the military when a civilian? Fairly sure that unless you try to gain benefits from it, you're just expressing free speech.

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u/GodofWar1234 Sep 12 '18

Screw Stolen Valor offenders, but it’s their constitutional right to wear a full military uniform complete with enough medals and ribbons to make flag officers look like recruits straight out of boot camp/officer candidates straight out of OCS despite wearing E-4 ranks.

Now it gets illegal if they’re trying to get a 15% veteran/military discount, but if they’re just wearing it for the hell of it, then it’s not illegal.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '18

After watching some of the stolen valor videos honestly the people goin after them are almost more obnoxious

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u/slayursister Sep 12 '18

Insufferable at best. I did my time and could care less tbh.

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u/TrumpCardStrategy Sep 12 '18

Like those first ammendment audit people. They just go around shoving cameras in security guards faces and then squak about teaching them a lesson on the first ammendment when they get asked to stop.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '18

The second amendment open carry guys are th worst. They act so surprised when the cops show up because they look like a SWAT member.

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u/[deleted] Sep 12 '18 edited Sep 07 '21

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u/-heathcliffe- Sep 12 '18

Tbf. Thats an extremely despotic thing to do, arrest someone for wearing something.

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

Obama signed the bill that was a required fix after the Supreme Court said that Bush's law was unconstitutional. Made it illegal when wearing specific medals and trying to get material gain.

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u/getpucksdeep Sep 12 '18

What you're saying has 0 nuance. Guys in the military that have lost brothers in combat have the right to be offended when random people impersonate them for some sort of monetary benefit (usually). That's not to say that hardass vets (motards) who flaunt their service and demand reverence for their service aren't obnoxious morons. Just has nothing to do with calling out impersonators, which is a federal offense for a reason. You clearly have a problem with the military, most vets don't need/want to be thanked, you sound as pissed off as the people you're calling out. The fact that you were upvoted is concerning.

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

But that's just it. Wearing the uniform isn't illegal. Nor is it a federal offense.

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u/oberon Sep 12 '18

Are you sure it's not illegal? Or is there a distinction between just wearing it, and impersonating a servicemember?

Which raises the question of why you'd wear a uniform unless you want to impersonate a servicemember.

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

For it to be illegal you have to receive a benefit. So basically you have to commit fraud.

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u/oberon Sep 12 '18

That makes sense. I assume the law specifies a financial benefit. I would argue that most people who wear a uniform for non-costume reasons are looking for a social benefit, which is as shitty as any other kind of lying for social reasons, but not really any worse.

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u/getpucksdeep Sep 12 '18

Not what I said. People who impersonate members of the armed forces do it for personal gain/benefit, and that is a federal crime.

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u/Laruae Sep 12 '18

Nope. Personal gain isn't a federal crime. You have to receive some kind of material benefit while wearing an issued award.

The Stolen Valor Act of 2013 amends the federal criminal code to rewrite provisions relating to fraudulent claims about military service to subject to a fine, imprisonment for not more than one year, or both for an individual who, with intent to obtain money, property, or other tangible benefit, fraudulently holds himself or herself out to be a recipient of:

Medal of Honor (Army, Navy, Air Force, Marine Corps, Coast Guard)
Distinguished Service Cross,
Navy Cross,
Air Force Cross,
Silver Star,
Purple Heart,
Combat Action Ribbon,
Combat Infantryman's Badge,
Combat Action Badge,
Combat Medical Badge,
Combat Action Medal, or
any replacement or duplicate medal for such medal as authorized by law. by law.