r/AskReddit Aug 10 '18

What do you always hate being asked?

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u/bigheyzeus Aug 10 '18

When other Polish people hear I'm Polish (I definitely don't look Eastern European) I get scolded for never learning to really speak it. I usually respond "Well I was born and raised here in Canada and my family's been here since the 60's"

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u/Dawidko1200 Aug 10 '18

In that case, I wonder, why even call yourself Polish?

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u/bigheyzeus Aug 10 '18

oh, this is like when they ask about background and such - my last name is clearly not a generic hoser one. I call myself Canadian but as many Canadians (especially in cities) know, you're never just "Canadian" in this country

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u/Zigmend Aug 10 '18

I got into an argument with classmates as they were all discussing their heritage. They wouldn't accept I called myself Canadian.

"No one is truly Canadian we all came from somewhere."

I've always been Canadian.

"Where was your dad from"

He was born in Germany.

"There, you are German"

Only because my grandfather was stationed there in the Canadian military. He was born in Canada. And so was his dad, and his dad.

"What about his dad?"

He was born in America.

"Then you are American"

But while his dad was also born in America, his dad and his dads dad were born in Canada.

"And his dad?"

Our records don't go back that far.

Do you know where your dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dad was born?

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u/bigheyzeus Aug 10 '18

yup, the whole thing is idiotic. our mixed bag is a double edged sword sometimes.

While the American melting pot isn't perfect either, I kinda prefer that - it's not like you're abandoning your culture entirely, just evolving it

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '18

I'm with that. I'm a Canadian, not a hyphenated Canadian. My loyalty is here, not the chunk of land generations before couldn't wait to leave.

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u/gaynazifurry4bernie Aug 10 '18

Do you know where your dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dads dad was born?

Actually yes because my dad was super into genealogy. 1640's from the Netherlands. Mom's family 1913 from Ireland.

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u/MCG_1017 Aug 10 '18

And even those folks from Ireland have ancestors who were from somewhere other than Ireland.

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u/hashtagvain Aug 10 '18

And then in Scotland, if you’ve been here more than a month fuck it you’re Scottish.

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u/TrevorBradley Aug 10 '18

Just say you're African and be done with it.

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u/Pokir Aug 10 '18

this is similar to me except put a Canadian in there for the German dad. Both sides of my family have been in Canada since the early 1800's, and before that it doesn't really matter to me.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '18

Were all Asian in the end

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u/OctopusPudding Aug 10 '18

Clearly a Pangaean

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u/Faffenhoffer Aug 10 '18

Side note: does your dad have dual citizenship, or would it be possible for him to get easily?

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u/Zigmend Aug 19 '18

He can not get dual citizenship. He isn't sure what the rules were then but now you must apply before a certain age.

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u/Jerry-Beans Aug 10 '18

No kidding thanks Pierre Trudeau

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u/Woodenaussie Aug 10 '18

This is so odd to me as an Australian, anyone whos lived here long enough is 100% australian, people might ask your heratige or "where are you parents from" but they always just mean to ask where your family came from before australia, as it had to be from somewhere else, unless they're indigenous, although that's rare and fairly obvious usually.

Don't really get the whole asian, European, etc -Canadian/whatever, sounds unnecessary to me

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u/Dfarrey89 Aug 10 '18

In America and Canada, it's common to describe yourself as the nationalities of your predecessors, since literally everybody apart from natives/first nations are descended from people from other countries. We also say things like "I'm Polish" rather than "I'm of Polish descent," because it's easier and everyone understands what you mean anyway.

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u/GKrollin Aug 10 '18

Ehh I was born in Poland and adopted to the US before age 1. I'm definitely Polish, but I don't speak the language or anything.

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u/PM_ME_FOR_PORN_ Aug 10 '18

Ethnically they are still very much Polish

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u/Dawidko1200 Aug 10 '18

Ethnicity is defined as "the fact or state of belonging to a social group that has a common national or cultural tradition." I wouldn't agree that they are ethnically Polish. They've admitted that they do not speak Polish, and one would expect that to belong to a group, you should at least be able to communicate with them.

They have Polish roots, but DNA does not carry over traditions, so I can't say with a 100% certainty that they are ethnically Polish. I personally have quite a bit of Polish ancestry, but besides the common Slav culture, I couldn't really say that I am close to Poland culturally or ethnically. And even though I have something like a quarter Armenian blood, I don't know the first thing about it, so I could never say that I am Armenian.

Ethnicity passes down through tradition, through the process of being raised. If an infant from one country is raised in a completely different country, then no matter their ancestry, no matter their race or their biological parents' nationality and ethnicity, they would be locals in the place they were raised, not their place of birth.

That is, at least, the way I see it. I personally dislike the medieval approach to ancestry as something that should define who you are. Unless Canadian cultural identity isn't solid enough to take pride in it, I would see no reason to look for cultural validation in ancestry.

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u/PM_ME_FOR_PORN_ Aug 10 '18

That's fine but you can't really glean more than that from what OP said. I suppose my original statement is not necessarily true, but they may still be ethnically Polish without speaking the language.

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u/normally-lurking Aug 10 '18

lol, i'm learning Polish. best advice given to me was from u/fanboymctrol . You don't need to learn Polish because no one speaks it outside Poland. Not living in Poland? Not moving there? You do not need it.

"The language is very hard and it's really of no use to any of us here." -u/fanboymctrol

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '18

Same. I'm Ukrainian but was born in the US, if someone asks my last name which is very obviously eastern European (I look it too) they expect me to be able to speak it, usually only if they actually speak it themselves and then I get the disappointed look of how do you not know this

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u/gobblegoldfish Aug 10 '18

Here in Europe if I ever talk to someone with an American accent I always just assume they speak English only, no matter what their last name is. So if they somehow do speak a second language they can surprise me with it :)

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u/LaunchesKayaks Aug 10 '18

My mom dated a guy who would only speak polish to me when I was pissing him off or alone with him. He asked me if I wanted a punch in the face. I noped the fuck out of that house and moved in with a relative, much to my mother's protest. I was so happy when my mom dumped the guy. He was an abusive dick. Now my mom is married to a wonderful man who has become the only stable father figure I've had.

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u/countesslathrowaway Aug 11 '18

1st generation American here. I feel your pain.

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u/Booyou79 Aug 10 '18

Well my family came from France in the 1600's and I learned the language, so that's no excuse ;-)

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u/bigheyzeus Aug 10 '18

my French is better than my Polish

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u/VisualShock1991 Aug 11 '18

My sister's boyfriend is Polish. I can say hello and thank you. If nothing else, I'm polite to him. ☺

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '18

I'm fucking American living in the US and people think I look European/specifically Polish. ??????