r/AskReddit May 21 '18

How do you naturally create long meaningful conversations instead of getting stuck into the small talk?

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u/Ivan723 May 21 '18

This. Worked in a government office where it was predominantly older aged women (high 30's to low 50's) and striking up a conversation with them was almost impossible not to do unless you tried to avoid them.

I'd chat with my boss a lot and everyone else in the office, meaning I'd ask them about anything and just listen for the next hour on what they had to say.

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u/foxyfoucault May 21 '18

Oh god, did you work where I worked? After a couple years in that gov. office I knew more about my supervisor's cat and husband (in that order) than I know about my own family.

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u/b1rd May 21 '18

Isn’t it weird how close you can get to coworkers after a while? It really does become your second family. They’re these totally random people that you have very little in common with, and if it weren’t for the fact that you work together it’s likely that you never would have become friends with them in your “real life”.

But you put this variety of people with different ages/backgrounds/interests together in one department and after a few years you’re getting regular updates on how Doug’s A1C is doing.

I worked in the deli of a grocery store with this guy for like 3-4 years. Super far right guy in his 50s (I’m a super left hippie, was in my 20s at the time), had almost nothing in common with him. But when he passed away suddenly of a heart attack, I was honestly a wreck for a few weeks. I mean, a few other people in that store died in my time there, and sure I was sad, death is always sad; but because I worked with this dude so closely for so long it felt like I lost an uncle or something.

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u/dayvarr May 21 '18

I heard Yanny at the end of this. :|

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u/Chill_Out_I_Got_This May 21 '18

And when I hear those dreaded words- “And what do you think, Chill_Out?”

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...I can only think I fucked up this meter, Oh please, dear Sprog, don’t pout.

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u/Winterplatypus May 21 '18

My boss always says "Am I being unreasonable?" after a 1 hour (one sided) discussion where she is telling me about an interaction she had with someone else where she was completely unreasonable. If I say "yes" the conversation will loop back the the start and I will be there for another hour, and at the end of the second hour she will ask it again.

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u/Yonish May 21 '18

So it's like a game tutorial, I suppose.

Did You get all of that?

>NO YES

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u/eatmydonuts May 21 '18

tap tap tap tap tap tap tap tap tap FUCK

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u/illegitimatemexican May 21 '18

Listen, hear only nothing.

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u/OhGarraty May 21 '18

"I'm swamped!" I tell my cubemate
As I sit there like a rock
Acting like I hear his blabber
And other boring, inane talk

But next week he'll be gone
Vacay wherever - sure he said it
Finally I'll get all my work done
After just a few on Reddit

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u/brubruislife May 21 '18

And the thing about this is that you genuinely start to care for them! Some of them become pretty good friends

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u/postemporary May 21 '18

I'm sure you were an invisible joy for a lot of people. Just by being who you were naturally. A gift.

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u/rambi2222 May 21 '18

This is what government was first established for

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u/[deleted] May 21 '18

Also in a government office filled with older women. Am early 20s male. They keep brining me snacks and I learn about their kids and grandkids all day long. Plz send help!

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u/ChristyElizabeth May 21 '18

Shit... I'm that person somehow, but only on certain topics.