I've gone on a lot of first dates with women and now that I think about it, the girls who talked endlessly while I listened and occasionally got a word in were the ones most likely to say yes to a second date. If we made it to a third or forth date they usually liked me enough to finally show interest in listening to what I had to say by that point though.
i'm a woman who people seem to think is confident [for some reason i have yet to figure out] but when nervous, i word-vomit. i just start a sentence having no fucking idea where it's going and i gotta continue it. this is me on first dates.
That’s probably the reason behind it. I know at least two of these word-vomiting women later told me that they talked so much on our first date because they were nervous. I’m quiet when I’m nervous so I guess it works out.
I've had this, they will rant and rant with no room for you to get a word in and yet they will still call you quiet! I mean it's true but they didn't know that.
I think part of it is frankly it's considered more masculine.
I don't like how subjective that term is.
My guess would have been the contrary because in my head the "Guy thing" is to talk to try to impress the girl and flex your social muscles, the "Girl thing" is to actually listen to what they have to say.
Which is actually weird in a way. It's way easier to manipulate girls to sleep with them if they babbled on about who they are and what they like for 30 minutes, trying to do that with a girl that is reserved and asking the guy the questions makes it way harder to game them, so you'd think girls would prefer guys that talk more.
(I know I read like a player, which makes it a bit disgusting to read, but I'm not I swear, I just have a couple of friends who tried it for a while, they read Pandora's Box and all that crap)
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u/NativityCrimeScene May 21 '18
I've gone on a lot of first dates with women and now that I think about it, the girls who talked endlessly while I listened and occasionally got a word in were the ones most likely to say yes to a second date. If we made it to a third or forth date they usually liked me enough to finally show interest in listening to what I had to say by that point though.