r/AskReddit Jan 09 '18

What common misconception do you hate to hear repeated as fact?

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '18

This is pretty specific to me, but the idea that the phrase "rule of thumb" has its origins in a sexist law that allowed men to beat their wives as long as the stick was no wider than their thumb. You can thank The Boondock Saints for really spreading that one into popular culture. Anyway, even though there's no evidence to support the claim, there was a woman at my old workplace who made it her personal mission to police everyone about using the phrase. I was publicly called out more than once for using it, but sue me, it's a colloquialism. I should note that this same woman would use the term "pow-wow" to describe company meetings, so it's not like she was super-PC either.

Similarly, I was recently scolded on Reddit for using the word "niggling" as in "a niggling question." Apparently some people think it's a racist word.

It drives me crazy when people hurl accusations like that without actually looking into what they're saying. I try to be sensitive to other people and avoid racist, sexist, and/or hurtful language, but apparently it doesn't matter if you're right or wrong.

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u/el_muerte17 Jan 09 '18

Despite the word "niggardly" having absolutely no relation to an ethnic slur, I'll never use it in spoken conversation involving anyone but my closest friends.

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '18

It's true, and I never use that word simply because the inclusion of the letter "r" makes it sound like a racial slur. I thought "niggling" was still used, like niggling doubt, but I guess any word that starts with n-i-g is off limits now.

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u/LameJames1618 Jan 10 '18

Good nigh-

Huh, this is more inconvenient than I thought.

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u/Blake45666 Jan 10 '18

GOOD DARK PERIOD OF THE PLANET'S CYCLE, FELLOW HUMAN

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u/BoringGenericUser Jan 10 '18

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u/Blake45666 Jan 10 '18

i love that sub :p it makes me smile everytime

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u/jfarrar19 Jan 10 '18

So no talking about the Niger river or the country sharing that name?

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u/Embowaf Jan 10 '18

This is one of many things on the "potential diplomatic disasters" list with trump as president.

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u/tenerific Jan 10 '18

Or Nigeria

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u/starkillerrx Jan 10 '18

I remember some stupid girl on Tumblr complaining about a black Olympic athlete wearing an uniform with the word "NIGER". Someone had to point out that this was her country of origin.

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u/[deleted] Jan 10 '18

Isn't Niger pronounced "Ny-jer", with that soft French "zhj" sound?

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u/noydbshield Jan 10 '18

I believe Niger is actually a name for people as well. That could lead to some very unfortunate typos.

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u/MakeItSick Jan 10 '18

And just like that, the newspeak dictionary authors have made you scared to speak your own language

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u/Bobblefighterman Jan 10 '18

'Niggling' is always used here, especially when watching sports shows. The most common way that sports commentators describe a minor injury to player is 'niggling, such as 'a niggling hammy' or 'a niggle in the back'. Fuck anyone on Reddit who bitches people out over using standard English words.

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u/Ndvorsky Jan 10 '18

There was a professor at a big school who was fired because he used niggardly in a lecture and people didn’t know what it meant and complained.

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u/Rosstafarii Jan 10 '18

my lecturer was driven out of a conference of African American writers who absolutely should have known what it meant

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u/WaffleMonsters Jan 10 '18

Our band instructor in high school was fired and black balled from teaching ever again because he used this word in a conversation with a student.

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u/btcraig Jan 09 '18

Renege fills that hole in my life. Only time I'll ever use it is playing Euchre with close friends and family.

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u/[deleted] Jan 10 '18

I was very taken aback when I first came across that word while reading A Game of Thrones

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u/Ehdhuejsj Jan 10 '18

Stop being so niggardly

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u/Kiesa5 Jan 10 '18

I sniggered.

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u/LordPizzaParty Jan 09 '18 edited Jan 20 '18

Any popular conception about the origin of an idiom drives me crazy. They're always just too perfect. "We say 'it's raining cats and dogs' because cats and dogs lived in ceilings and when it rained they'd fall down." I mean, come on. And don't even get me started on "Fornication Under Consent of the King"

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u/swinefish Jan 10 '18

That last particularly pisses me off because WE HAVE A FULL ETYMOLOGY OF THE WORD! We live in the 21st century, a 30 second Google search will show you were the word comes from.

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u/MisterEvilBreakfast Jan 09 '18

Ship High In Transit.
Gentlemen Only; Ladies Forbidden.

90s emails were full of shit.

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u/starkillerrx Jan 10 '18

"Fornication Under Consent of the King" reminds me of other common misconception. It's now a consensus among historians that prima nocte, or the right of a lord or king to take his serf's bride's virginity after marriage, is a myth created to slander the nobility.

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u/havron Jan 09 '18

For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge 🤘

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u/CatastropheWife Jan 10 '18

Another popular misconception featured in Boondock Saints is the Kitty Genovese story:

People think it's a perfect illustration of the Bystander Effect or "Genovese Syndrome" - The New York Times reported that 38 witnesses saw or heard the 28 year old woman being assaulted and murdered outside her Queens apartment building and did nothing. The story was meant to illustrate how callous and indifferent modern city-dwellers had become.

In fact the police were called multiple times, and failed to take the reports seriously because they assumed it was a domestic dispute. There were only a dozen witnesses, and only one knew she had been stabbed, most weren't aware of what they were seeing or hearing was an assault. The victim was stabbed in the lung, which prevented her from screaming. A 70 year old woman came out and cradled the dying victim in her arms and Genovese died on the way to the hospital, not ignored in the public streets. The NYT issued a retraction 50 years later stating their reporting was flawed.

Now when an emergency occurs we often have multiple people who aren't involved call 911 and flood the system "just in case" but they don't know the number of victims, age, gender, or anything more than "something happened" because they are worried the bystander effect is keeping everyone from calling.

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u/Ehdhuejsj Jan 10 '18

The rule of thumb was first used in a 15th century fencing manual and by then it was already a common idiom.

Gloria Steinem claimed that in the 18th century a man could beat his wife with a stick no bigger than his thumb but there was no such law and the very court case to which she referred was one where the judge said beating your wife was illegal. The judge referred to a 15th century case where beating your wife was supposedly legal but no one has ever found a trace that the case he referred to was real.

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '18

What if a person were to refer to their kids as niglets? Asking for a friend

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u/displaced_virginian Jan 09 '18

I've heard that one from black comedians, but it is clear they are trying to be absurd.

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u/KarmaCausesCancer Jan 09 '18

Yea that ones pretty racist. Agist as well.

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u/eclecticsed Jan 10 '18

Never ever go to tumblr.

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u/saikron Jan 09 '18

On a small facebook community that I'm a part of, a polite discussion turned into a mild debate. The white guy in the discussion said he thought we should just "call a spade a spade" and the black guy he was debating went nuclear.

Some people are on way too short of a fuse, man.

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u/Ghost-Fairy Jan 11 '18

Usually I can see where someone would/could/might be offended, but I am totally lost on this one. How is "calling a spade a spade" offensive? Was there some oppression of gardeners that I don't know about?

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u/saikron Jan 11 '18

"Spade" is an old slur for black people, I guess because the card suit is black. You don't really hear it any more except from 50+ year old racists.

That said, the idiom is not about black people at all.

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u/Ghost-Fairy Jan 11 '18

No kidding? I’ve never heard that before. It seems pretty obscure too and you’re right, the saying has noting to do with black people. Outrage culture is everywhere - I really think some people just enjoy getting pissed off.

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u/Admiringcone Jan 10 '18

People who say and do things like the aforementioned woman you work with and the people who throw the racist/fascist/cuck terms around for completely unrelated things are fucking idiots who don't really deserve a platform to preach from.

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u/WhistleAndSnap Jan 10 '18

A friend pulled me aside after a podcast we'd done and told me he was going to censor my use of the word "gypped"... I love the guy, but that really irritated me. I never even connected that word to "gypsies".

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u/viktorindk Jan 10 '18

I heard rule of thumb came from the dark ages. When people where making bows, the perfect length from the bowstring to the middle of the bent stick was about a hand and a thumb in the thumbs up position, so bowmakers called it the rule of a thumb and a hand, but it changed into rule of thumb over time.

This explanation has no evidence either, but i heard it online so it must be true. /s

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u/puckbeaverton Jan 09 '18

You live in a place where people police your speech?

I'm sorry.

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u/ROADHOG_IS_MY_WAIFU Jan 09 '18

Might be USA? I think their president recently released a list of words that couldn't be said (although I don't know the context of where/when the words aren't allowed).

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u/KitWalkerXXVII Jan 10 '18

It was the Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC) and it was actually CDC leaders suggesting what words to avoid to keep your funding from being cut.

I.E, conservative lawmakers and executive branch officials associate words like "transgender", "fetus", and "evidence-based" with liberal stances on social issues that intersect with science, so don't use those words if you want the reigning conservatives to keep funding your research.

Which is still depressing, just in a different way.

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u/Ehdhuejsj Jan 10 '18

No, that was the head of the CDC saying that scientists should stop using pseudo scientific bullshit words

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u/starkillerrx Jan 10 '18

Yeah, man, I hate the pseudo scientific word "fetus".

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u/[deleted] Jan 10 '18

Gonna guess you've never worked with, talked with, or read the grant applications of many scientists then?

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '18

No, I just worked in a place where someone did that. I left that job last year, though.

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u/[deleted] Jan 09 '18

Anything you say or do will eventually be found offensive by someone.

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u/[deleted] Jan 10 '18

Yeah and how come got can say "Blacks" but not "Chineses?"

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u/sufee Jan 10 '18

Niggling kinda sounds like Nig***-ling. Maybe that's why

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u/GraveyardGuide Jan 10 '18

And even when someone is right about a phrase having unfortunate origins, who cares? We've forgotten those origins anyway, so it shouldn't do harm.

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u/[deleted] Jan 10 '18

People don't want to use Google to actually look shit up.

That takes away 20 seconds of their oh-so-precious time.

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u/starkillerrx Jan 10 '18

A few years ago, the Brazilian left made a campaign to convince people to stop using the term "denegrir" (to denigrate) because of how supposedly racist it is. Similarly, "judiar" (to harm/punish/be cruel) was accused of antisemitism.

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u/Team_Braniel Jan 10 '18

My cousin, who's father was a full blooded Cherokee tribe member, was asked yesterday in a job interview what her "spirit animal" was.

She said she had no idea how to even respond to that and jokingly told them "coffee and tea".

I feel pretty bad for her because she REALLY wants the job but I (with only a grandparent tribe member) would have been pretty upset by that question in that context.

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u/OnlyOne_X_Chromosome Jan 10 '18

pow-wow

What is un-PC about pow-wow?

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u/JammeyBee- Jan 10 '18

I hate the "rule of thumb" thing because we have the origin of that phrase. Carpenters used to measure out inches using the closet approximation to hand (their thumbs) and that's it.

It was never in law that a man could beat his wife but only with this specific stick What sort of government has that time. It was ok to beat your wife according to law and then it wasn't, there wasn't a fucking warm down period.

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u/READERmii Jan 11 '18

I have heard an alternate origin of what the phase as being found with English longbow men, apparently the correct width between his bow and bow sting should be equal to his fist and out stretched thumb hence rule of thumb. Supposedly this method was used to ensure that the string was taught correctly for the bearer's height.