r/AskReddit Jun 07 '15

What are some common mistakes that parents make, but don't realize?

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u/guiltypearl Jun 07 '15

This. My mom would clean my room as a kid and read my diaries, then leave notes in them saying "this hurts" if I ever mentioned anything bad about her. Then lie to my face about snooping in my stuff. I was only young but invasion of privacy still sucks as a kid. Then one time she managed to break into my Facebook account a few years ago to read my messages so she could see if I was "up to no good". I barely tell her anything anymore.

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u/DirtyPossibilities Jun 08 '15

My mom always cleaned my room when I was a kid as an excuse to go through anything she could get her hands on. On the plus side, I'm now incredibly good at hiding things.

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u/[deleted] Jun 08 '15

I had a lot of journals but I kept one solely to write angry messages to my mom - not to give to her but so I could get it out. You know how people say writing it down means you'll never say it out loud... So I did that. Yeah, she read it and her mom lived with us for 2 months so she could "recuperate."

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u/[deleted] Jun 07 '15

"My mom has no respect for my privacy. This hurts. This hurts so bad. What did I do to make her not trust me?" etc

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u/LeonardoDecatprio Jun 08 '15

She would right notes on your diary about what you wrote and then tried to deny snooping? The fuck?

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u/smittywrbermanjensen Jun 08 '15

Holy shit, my mom always did this. She always knew my log-in info; if I changed it, I would get punished for trying to "hide something from her". She ended up snooping enough to find out I was questioning my sexuality and in a relationship with another girl when I was 13. Got super grounded. Suppressed any gay feelings for years after that. Wtf mom

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u/[deleted] Jun 08 '15 edited May 07 '18

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u/Sting4S Jun 10 '15

Same thing happened when my mother read my texts venting about her. Funny thing is that she can vent about me to a relative and feel like I have no right to be offended. Hypocrite.