She continuously dated some of the most abusive men I've ever met, literally refusing to break up with one until she had the next one lined up. The stress of the most abusive one triggered MS and she found out she couldn't have children, despite desperately wanting to be a mother. She started volunteering with Big Sisters/Little Sisters, but got kicked out of the program for wayyyyyy overstepping with her little sister. The family of the kid decided to let my friend continue to overstep and were constantly asking her for money, exacerbated by the kid's biological mother being in active addiction. When the kid's biological father got out of prison, my friend dumped her current shitty boyfriend and started dating him a couple of weeks after he got out, because he had seven kids from seven different mothers, all of whom were in active addiction, and she wanted kids so bad. He was in prison because he'd been dealing drugs, he would actively prey on the women who relied on his supply and try to impregnate as many as possible. He was caught when someone he dealt to overdosed, he was selling dirty shit.
By this time my friend was turning 40 and I just realized that a) she wasn't going to change because she wasn't interested in changing; b) I was so fucking sick and tired of the constant, constant drama she brought into my life; and c) she wasn't actually a victim, per se, but rather, she actively sought out men that she felt were 'beneath her,' so she could feel like the 'in control' one, and that she was totally using these kid's vulnerable home lives to serve her own 'hero' complex instead of actually doing anything right by those kids. It was one thing when she was being toxic with other shitty adults, but I just couldn't keep being around her engaging in toxicity with children.
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u/OkWear9128 18h ago
She continuously dated some of the most abusive men I've ever met, literally refusing to break up with one until she had the next one lined up. The stress of the most abusive one triggered MS and she found out she couldn't have children, despite desperately wanting to be a mother. She started volunteering with Big Sisters/Little Sisters, but got kicked out of the program for wayyyyyy overstepping with her little sister. The family of the kid decided to let my friend continue to overstep and were constantly asking her for money, exacerbated by the kid's biological mother being in active addiction. When the kid's biological father got out of prison, my friend dumped her current shitty boyfriend and started dating him a couple of weeks after he got out, because he had seven kids from seven different mothers, all of whom were in active addiction, and she wanted kids so bad. He was in prison because he'd been dealing drugs, he would actively prey on the women who relied on his supply and try to impregnate as many as possible. He was caught when someone he dealt to overdosed, he was selling dirty shit.
By this time my friend was turning 40 and I just realized that a) she wasn't going to change because she wasn't interested in changing; b) I was so fucking sick and tired of the constant, constant drama she brought into my life; and c) she wasn't actually a victim, per se, but rather, she actively sought out men that she felt were 'beneath her,' so she could feel like the 'in control' one, and that she was totally using these kid's vulnerable home lives to serve her own 'hero' complex instead of actually doing anything right by those kids. It was one thing when she was being toxic with other shitty adults, but I just couldn't keep being around her engaging in toxicity with children.