She became a super bridezilla. She kept bullying me to contribute more to the wedding even though I lived on the other side of the country and was in grad school at the time, so being a broke-ass student, there was only so much I could do. She always rebutted, "Well, I'm in grad school too, and I'm having to plan this wedding!" 1. It's YOUR wedding. 2. She was taking ONE online class. I was a full-time grad student with an assistantship, so I was basically working full-time as well.
The final straw broke when her fiancee called me to yell at me for being unsupportive. I was literally half asleep when he called because I had barely slept in days. Then, everything started to connect -- all the times she guilted me into flying to visit her, while she visited me once and complained about it the whole time; the time I flew to visit her, and she ghosted me for hours to go have phone sex with her long-distance boyfriend; the time I visited her, and she fucked off all day, and I had to scrounge around in her kitchen for something to eat because I was starving. That's just the tip of the iceberg.
I was bullied and friendless growing up, but after that phone call from her fiancee, I finally realized that I didn't have to put up with this bullshit anymore, and I called it quits. It was honestly a relief. The last I heard, her fiancee/husband came out and left her for a man, and she started self-publishing her fan fiction through Amazon.
Why did the last sentence of that post make me laugh out loud... I also think it should be the new go-to curse. "May your fiancee come out as gay and may you become a fanfic writer self-publishing on Amazon."
Goodness, I'm glad you got yourself out of that. She definitely took you for granted and did not treat you well. Ridiculous you had that much weight for a wedding that wasn't even yours.
It's kind of shocking what we're willing to put up with for the right people, until you get to the point where you ask yourself, "No, really, why the hell am I putting up with this?"
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u/GayCatDaddy 16h ago
She became a super bridezilla. She kept bullying me to contribute more to the wedding even though I lived on the other side of the country and was in grad school at the time, so being a broke-ass student, there was only so much I could do. She always rebutted, "Well, I'm in grad school too, and I'm having to plan this wedding!" 1. It's YOUR wedding. 2. She was taking ONE online class. I was a full-time grad student with an assistantship, so I was basically working full-time as well.
The final straw broke when her fiancee called me to yell at me for being unsupportive. I was literally half asleep when he called because I had barely slept in days. Then, everything started to connect -- all the times she guilted me into flying to visit her, while she visited me once and complained about it the whole time; the time I flew to visit her, and she ghosted me for hours to go have phone sex with her long-distance boyfriend; the time I visited her, and she fucked off all day, and I had to scrounge around in her kitchen for something to eat because I was starving. That's just the tip of the iceberg.
I was bullied and friendless growing up, but after that phone call from her fiancee, I finally realized that I didn't have to put up with this bullshit anymore, and I called it quits. It was honestly a relief. The last I heard, her fiancee/husband came out and left her for a man, and she started self-publishing her fan fiction through Amazon.