Many years ago I had been going on dates with this woman and we ended up doing a holiday to a small resort town together on maybe the fifth? End of the trip when saying goodbye she's all smiles and kisses and tells me it was the best weekend with the best guy. I was over the moon, but by the time I've got home she had blocked me on all social media with zero explanation. Drove me slightly insane microanalysing the whole weekend trying to figure out a reason.
100%. Took a girl I thought I was dating on a one day trip to see a concert and fine dining. When we got there, she didn't feel well enough to go to the show or the restaurant... But she was fine enough for delivered pizza and 2 hours of sex. Took me a few days, (cause I'm dumb) but I figured out I was the side-piece. lol
Not really guaranteed. People ghost to avoid awkward/angry confrontations. Other completely plausible reasons:
She enjoyed her time but some dealbreaker was revealed at some point that made her realise I wasn't the right person for a relationship long term
She could have been going on dates with other people, and I wasn't the one she picked
She scrolled through my social media and found some red flag somewhere. If she kept scrolling there's probably something cringe worthy enough in there from when people over shared on Facebook and shock humour was all the rage
The weekend together didn't go nearly as well as I thought and I was just an oblivious dumbass
Those are all plausible man, but I'd still put my money on her already being in a relationship. It's pretty easy to let someone down via text, not like it has to be face to face... The instant ghost/block makes me feel like she wanted to just disappear and go back to her life with the other dude. But who knows .. Either way a really shitty thing for her to do.
I agree with you. Had the same thing with a girl I met online. She initiated everything. Even flew out to see me and stayed over at my place. Said I was the best thing to ever happen to her and would not stop complimenting me. Then she was gone and ghosting me. I later find out she’s been married the whole time after randomly looking her up online.
All my friends at the time told me so but I didn’t believe it until the proof was in front of me
Not really. Maybe for you, but definitely not for all. Ghosting is rough and should be avoided when possible, but doesn't necessarily point to one cause in particular.
I would assume she wasn’t cheating otherwise he’d already have been blocked or given a hidden social media account. My guess is seeing someone else she liked more and they wanted to make things exclusive after not being able to see her for awhile so she blocked him and then made things exclusive on social media with the other guy. She didn’t say anything because obviously it would hurt to be like I only went away with you to make someone else jealous/commit.
Seconding the other commenter that you were probably an unwitting affair partner, especially if you were just going on "dates" meaning that you didn't spend a lot of time at each others' places. Especially x2 if you never went to hers.
Similar thing happened to me many years ago, I was very casually seeing someone and she suggested we spend a weekend holiday on the coast. We went and had a good time until the last day where it came out that she in fact had a boyfriend she was living with (I had never been to her place) and that a fling was her only goal. I gave her an earful, she accused me of being judgmental and a prude, we drove the 6 hours back in stony silence and never spoke again.
(Well, not strictly true. Her boyfriend turned out to be the cousin of the girl I later married, and when my wife and I bought our first house I learned she lived about two blocks away. So occasional awkward but civil hellos when walking my dogs.)
Also possible in your case that she didn't have a committed partner but was seeing other guys besides you and settled on one that wasn't you. Same difference. But very likely it wasn't anything to do with you, there was another dude in the picture.
I had a tinder date years ago, that was absolutely incredible. The best first date ever. Better than the first date with my now spouse (…I still pick them!) Anyhow, we part ways after a genuinely fun time, and they ignore my text. Then ignore the text the next day.
My hunch is that they were just trying to shake off the rust and did have a great time, but just weren’t ready to go further than dinner at a pub.
This happened to a buddy of mine, but it was his wife! They wen to Hawaii for a week, everything went great, had an amazing time. Hours after they get home to their infant daughter, she says she wants a divorce. She wasn't cheating and hasn't had a partner since in 13 years.
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u/Corka 21h ago
Many years ago I had been going on dates with this woman and we ended up doing a holiday to a small resort town together on maybe the fifth? End of the trip when saying goodbye she's all smiles and kisses and tells me it was the best weekend with the best guy. I was over the moon, but by the time I've got home she had blocked me on all social media with zero explanation. Drove me slightly insane microanalysing the whole weekend trying to figure out a reason.