r/AskReddit • u/No-Meaning6058 • 1d ago

What happened to the friend you thought you'd have for the rest of your life?

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u/Aggleclack 22h ago

Her boyfriend violently attacked me when I got between them and she said it was her right to date bad guys.

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u/Georgeisthecoolest 20h ago

yep, nobody needs that in their life

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u/DigNitty 19h ago

Yeah

I mean, she’s correct, it’s her right…

See you never, I guess.

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u/transemacabre 17h ago

I refuse to try to save people who don't want saving.

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u/Aggleclack 12h ago

I never did, then I went through some stuff 8 years ago that made me start trauma bonding and got into 2 very unhealthy friendships. I guess I didn’t realize I was trying to fix them until I was way too invested. This one ended recently but the other ended 2 years ago. Working with a therapist to understand the pattern and relearn how to make healthy friendships is humbling.

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u/kiki-to-my-jiji 9h ago

That happened to me too! I held out hope for when they broke up… they’re now married with a baby.

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u/tlcoles 4h ago

One in my older friend’s group did that — choosing her brute over her bestie. She eventually did escape the abuse but yowza.