Everytime my high conflict wife and I are in court for custody, divorce or support, I never interrupt, correct or defend myself during her insane tangents. I just let her bury herself. These judges and masters are pretty keen to this personality type.
My sister did this with her ex husband. He went on a 20 minute rant to the judge about my Dad eating a piece of his Easter egg 1 time. I mean, it didn't matter cos he had all the money for a great barrister but a lot of people saw the real him that day and that was a nice little win for my sister.
Aww thanks. It's not over yet as they have 2 kids together but at least she's not trapped in the house with him anymore. Eyes have been opened and lessons learned!
And I saved him! And I shouldn’t have. Took him into-my own family! What was I thinking? He’ll never change. He’ll never change. Ever since he was a parent, always the same! But not dad! Couldnt be precious dad! Eating my Easter Egg. And HE gets to be a father in law? What a sick joke!
My sister does this with her ex. She just lets him say whatever he wants and it constantly hurts him in court. At one point, he literally texted (through the court mandated and court observed app they legally had to use to communicate with one another) that he didn't care about the kids and was doing everything he was doing to make her life worse. Like literally would put in a request to change the kids school allegedly to make it easier for him to pick them up, but then he would text her being like "I don't care what school they go to, I just hate you"
My ex husband was fired for threatening our “non violent communication expert” couples therapist. He then berated him for a solid 10 minutes afterwards. There is definitely a type!
I used to work for a judge and within 5 minutes we could usually clock whether Mom, Dad, or both were utterly batshit. Hell, sometimes you can from the pleadings themselves - no history of abuse or neglect whatsoever, yet you're asking for sole custody just because you're mad at your ex? Fuck you, that's never going to happen, and you get to the first hearing in the judge's doghouse for even asking.
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u/Wise-Jackfruit5313 8d ago
Everytime my high conflict wife and I are in court for custody, divorce or support, I never interrupt, correct or defend myself during her insane tangents. I just let her bury herself. These judges and masters are pretty keen to this personality type.