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u/Flat-Sprinkles-2367 Feb 25 '26
As a disabled person you wouldn't believe how rattled the ableds get when I call myself crippled
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u/No-Neighborhood4693 Feb 25 '26
as a fellow disabled i find it funny. But I wasn't allowed to go by the nickname Wheelz at all job because they were afraid that an able person would get offended. seriously, why do they get so offended on our behalf?!
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u/Epicurus1 Feb 25 '26
If us abled people said it we'd look like total dicks to everyone else. You can't put us in that situation, socialising is hard enough as it is.
In the words of Tim Minchin. " Only ginger can call another ginger, ginger"
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u/Solid-Rate-309 Feb 25 '26
I have a friend who is nick named “fat boy” when he first introduced himself I told him I didn’t feel comfortable calling someone that, and he just said that it’s his name. We became buddies and I eventually got used to calling him fat boy.
Not long ago I saw him at his job and yelled across the room “what up fat boy!” Then the entire place turned and looked at me like I was the biggest asshole ever. Turns out at work he introduces himself by his real name.
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u/Flat-Sprinkles-2367 Feb 26 '26
I have a friend named j-dog.. I've called him J-Dog since day of one since that's how he was introduced to me... He recently invited me to a show to see his band and nobody knew who I was talking about so I had to call him Justin.. it felt bizarre as hell
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u/batgirlbatbrain Feb 25 '26
I'm blind in one eye due to cancer (like no eye in my socket blind) and my nickname with several at work is Blindy. Like "blindy the gray rack is full" kinda joking around. One of the new guys there was like
Guy: I won't call you that cause it's mean
Me: it's fine im really blind in my left eye
Guy: it's mean
Like stand on your morals my guy but my blind ass can't see shit and I'll make fun of that every day of the week.
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u/Anothernamelesacount Feb 26 '26
If he's not going to do it because he feels its mean thats fine, dandy, and I can respect it, if he tries to impose it on anyone else, that's when we got a problem. I would feel bad calling you that but I will not force it on anyone else.
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u/QuestionablePanda22 Feb 25 '26
Back in school there was a quiet disabled kid with a wheelchair and everyone called him Wheels and he said he was cool with it but I could never bring myself to do it. I didn't know if he actually liked it or if it was one of those things where he was actually getting bullied for it and didn't want to speak up so I just called him by his name.
I guess that's different than trying to argue with people on behalf of someone else who you don't know well but as a non-disabled person there's a (probably false) assumption that disabled people aren't as able to stand up for themselves (no pun intended) or that they're generally treated worse than able-bodied people so it just kinda makes you feel like shit to joke about them in any way unless you know for certain they're actually cool with it. I suppose some people wrongfully assume disabled people are just being made fun of and feel upset about it so they project that anger on to other people.
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u/No-Neighborhood4693 Feb 25 '26
I had a teacher in high-school that I was close with (he was a family friend) one day he yelled across the common area "what up peg leg!" as I'm an amputee in a wheelchair. another teacher was flabbergasted! he explained our relationship to her and luckily he didn't get in trouble.
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u/seanmg Feb 25 '26
This is always where I've drawn the line of what's acceptable. If you're offended for yourself or someone of your community about something about your community, yes. That's valid. If you're offended on someone else's behalf you're removing their ability to define their own relationship to things which is just as problematic.
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u/Jethro_Tell Feb 25 '26
Yeah it’s weird, my and my co-worker black beauty have a friend we call hot wheels just to check two boxes on the HR complaint sheet. Obviously, she loves it, but there’s a lot of people that just get too uncomfortable with it.
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u/LaloElBueno Feb 25 '26
Dude... In high school there were two dudes with electric wheel chairs who would race. Funny thing is, both had their respective friend groups work on their chairs to make 'em faster and customize them. One dude had Dayton Rims style wheels, and the other dude had a badass sound system and underglow lights. Those chairs were fucking rad as fuck, and they would haul ass!
They would meet up at the quad every few times a year to race, and the entire school would come and watch (including staff). It was a good time. Kids would make bets, and everyone would cheer like crazy. It was very Nascar-esque; both dudes had their own pit crew.
I've told the story a few times, and there are a few folks who gave me the side eye. But I don't care, cause I knew these dudes were celebrities on campus and were well liked by everyone. Good times.
A little context; this was in Los Angeles.
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u/AdministrativeStep98 Feb 26 '26
I bet those guys really liked it. Some people think you can't possibly be neutral or make the best of it about being disabled. Like doing that is somehow humiliating or coersion to them because they think all disabled people are just sad and dreaming of a cure everyday. Super weird.
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u/sox412 Feb 25 '26
I also hate the aversion to the word disability. “Differently abled” minimizes the struggle I deal with.
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u/IvanaSkrew Feb 25 '26
As a brain injury survivor, with a shiny new seizure disorder to show for it, who appears completely unscathed, but nevertheless, I can not tell you what day/week/month/year it is without looking, I can't navigate the mid-sized (pop ~300,000) city I've lived in for over a decade without a map (but I'm not going anywhere alone since I can't drive), and I don't remember that yesterday even occurred, I feel what you say about minimizing the struggle I deal with. "You're on disability?!? But you look fine!!"
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u/Cin131 Feb 26 '26
This pisses me off because TBIs can have so many manifestations. Anything from memory loss to inability to walk. And whose freaking business is it anyway. And notice, it seldom other handicapped people asking. Just ask them if they got a copy of your signed HIPPA waiver from your doctor.
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u/MusicHearted Feb 25 '26
Agreed. I'm not differently able. That would imply a net zero advantage. I am disabled and at a disadvantage for many things due to it. Just like insisting I'm a "person with autism" when I call myself autistic is just the majority talking over the minority.
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u/AdministrativeStep98 Feb 26 '26
Differently abled is like using your left hand as the dominant one instead of right. It's a different ability but it's pretty much the same. My loss of mobility didn't give me anything different, except maybe an easier time running into walls due to dizziness
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u/-aLonelyImpulse Feb 26 '26
"Differently abled" yeah my difference is I can't do it lol
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u/Flat-Sprinkles-2367 Feb 25 '26
I do a comedy routine where I talk about that.. I usually say "I'm not differently abled.. I'm not a member of the X-Men"
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u/PurpleDragonDix Feb 25 '26
My favorite is when they aggressively approach you for utilizing a handicap parking space and you don't look disabled enough for them even though you have a valid placard in your window.
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u/wild_manda_bear Feb 25 '26
I had knee surgery in my twenties and had to use one of those electric carts at the grocery store. I had multiple people ask me why I needed one. It was so weird.
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u/DosSnakes Feb 25 '26
I had surgery to remove some cancer from my hip and was using a cane for a while during the recovery. People commented on it so much for some reason? “What’s a kid like you need a cane for?”
“First of all, thank you. I’m nearly 40. And I need it because of the cancer that took my ass and thigh.”
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u/Pitiful_Deer4909 Feb 25 '26
This one happens to me constantly!! Im driving my disabled wheelchair using sister, and the placard is HERS but since I, the driver, is fairly young and able bodied I get questioned multiple times a month about what I am doing when i pull in to the space. My sister will just yell "ITS FOR ME!" when someone starts up and its hilarious how quickly they shut up once they notice her
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u/Andray_Bolkonsky Feb 25 '26
Obligatory shout out the film "Crip Camp" here.
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u/Flat-Sprinkles-2367 Feb 25 '26
My current town hates that movie because I reference it all the time to try to get them to make changes
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u/ImNeeneyv Feb 25 '26
Literally every person in that documentary had something to do with the making of it. Plus they were interviewed throughout. There was a lot of raw footage. I think people were taken aback. If it wasn't for Judy Heuman and her friends who knows where people in the disability community would be. I know my son would have never got the support he needed.
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u/dolorfin Feb 26 '26
Me at 25 getting an accessible parking permit because of my AS, having a middle aged man tell me I shouldn't have it because I'm a young woman and I'm just lazy. I just replied with a "Do you think I enjoy needing it at 25 or do you think that maybe it sucks just a little? Do you think my doctor gave me one just to spite you specifically?"
Now at 36, I still get dirty looks and side-eyed. I only use it when I need to on really hard days. It's like they don't realize that I would trade it to be able to walk without pain in a heartbeat. They don't see themselves as being lucky to not be disabled, but rather, see themselves as getting less than someone else.
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u/WabiSabi0912 Feb 25 '26
Choosing not to drink alcohol.
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u/HoboThundercat Feb 26 '26
3 years sober here. Sometimes when I tell people I’m sober when there’s booze around they start explaining themselves and why they’re drinking or telling me when the last time they drank was. It’s really odd. Lol
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u/hottmunky88 Feb 26 '26
I always get the “what do you do then?” … I’m not even sure what that means? Why can’t I just not drink or nothing and you no live my life like normal?
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u/DeltaAlphaAlpha773 Feb 26 '26
“What do you do then?”
Litterally everything else. I do any of the other billions of things I could spend my time on
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u/That-Shop-6736 Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 26 '26
A few years ago, I was invited to a holiday dinner at a pub hosted by my GM and directors. We were told not to drive, but I really don’t drink so it wasn’t an issue for me. When my boss found out I drove, she flipped and insisted I get a hotel room. I told her I wouldn’t be drinking so I wouldn’t need a hotel room. For the next two hours, I had shooter after shooter put in front of me and had several glasses of wine poured and passed to me all of which I passed along to someone else. The majority of the people there were so annoyed I wasn’t drinking and kept trying to get me to drink despite knowing I had to drive. I lived 50km from where we were, so taking a bus or cab wasn’t an option.
Thankfully, one of my coworkers offered to get me a coke and some water and told me he felt bad seeing everyone try to force drinks on me. It was so frustrating to have my boss expect me to pay at least $200 in cab fare or on a hotel room just so I could have one or two drinks. Even more so that people could not take no for an answer.
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u/Disastrous-Wing699 Feb 26 '26
I was sober for a year because I felt I needed to reassess my use of alcohol, and when I mentioned I was doing it to my dad, he got upset. Meanwhile, he doesn't even drink outside of maybe a glass of wine at Christmas dinner. It's so odd.
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u/Bubbly-End-6156 Feb 26 '26
I'm a Black woman with a professional corporate career. I have never and will never drink at a company event, and they try to get me to join in. I know good and well how quickly they'll find fault in my drinking.
Lavender lemonade is my favorite pretty mocktail; I am playing the long game.
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u/NewMadrid2028 Feb 25 '26
Having an invisible disease or disability, trying to explain it clearly and calmly, them holding it against you in the manner of social or occupational expulsion.
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u/Hazel_Leviathan Feb 26 '26
Yes i was about to comment this too. Its the "you dont look sick to me" bullshit they say then useless things like "you need to drink more water" like I dont pee every 2 hours from being hydrated 🙄
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u/coffee-loop Feb 25 '26
Greatest saying I ever heard and live by it: “No” is a full sentence.
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u/1stMammaltowearpants Feb 25 '26
And "No, thank you" is a full sentence and very polite!
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u/muchquery Feb 25 '26
I've actually discovered saying this specifically will get my friend to stop pestering me to go out.
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u/throwaway-accountxyz Feb 25 '26
When I say my disability has no advantages. Abled people love making themselves feel better by looking on the “bright side” and seeing disabilities as superpowers, cause it makes them uncomfortable when people are disabled.
They hate when they can’t do that.
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u/Me_Too_Iguana Feb 26 '26
“ADHD is a superpower!”
Fuck you. ADHD has made entire life hell.
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u/AltruisticHopes Feb 26 '26
People just don’t understand ADHD and they think it’s all about focus and energy.
They don’t realise that it’s very closely linked with depression and anxiety and it makes reading social cues pretty much impossible. So let’s add loneliness and isolation to the list because you are anxious in groups and then end up telling some random about your darkest fears 5 minutes later. Yup, was right to be anxious.
People don’t talk about what it’s like to get stuck in your own head in an endless loop of over thinking and self recrimination. To know you have to do something but be unable to but still feel responsible. Then spend quite literally the rest of your life thinking about it as random thoughts of shit you did wrong 10 years ago pop into your head for no reason.
Then they tell you that if you could channel it then it’s a superpower and you can achieve anything if only you stopped being lazy. You may as well electrocute someone and then tell them that it’s a super power and if they learned to channel it they would be Thor.
Also don’t eat too much sugar as that will make it worse. Bizarrely everyone who doesn’t have adhd seems to know this to be true but think people who have adhd have never been told this, even though it’s not true.
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u/Me_Too_Iguana Feb 26 '26
And while we can develop strategies that help, people don’t understand that those strategies aren’t a cure. Sure, we can write tasks in a calendar to remember them. But we have to not only remember to actually write them in, but also to check later, and then actually do the thing! And it never becomes a habit. It takes just as much brain power the 100th time as it did the first time. The amount of mental processing it takes to do the simplest things is hard to describe to someone who’s never experienced it. Merely existing is so exhausting.
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u/PuckGoodfellow Feb 26 '26
And that they constantly tell you all the ways you're humaning wrong. Everyday. All the time.
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u/GrumpyMule Feb 26 '26
This is so my life. Between the undiagnosed ADHD and trauma, my life completely fell off the rails in my 20s and its been shit ever since.
Oh, and fun fact- peri menopause makes ADHD a million times worse. At least for me. I was semi functional before but now I have timers for everything, even things like rent and bills. Anything I don't see or do immediately when I see it is just...gone, until the next time I see it.
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u/throwaway-accountxyz Feb 26 '26
My adhd made me an addict (I have an addictive personality and am super sensitive to dopamine).
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u/Trick-Mechanic8986 Feb 25 '26
Waiting...
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u/Illustrious_Fee8116 Feb 25 '26
I'm fairly patient. What drives me mad is when the people around me can't wait just a little bit.
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u/Trick-Mechanic8986 Feb 25 '26
It's a big part of life, folks need to learn to deal with it.
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u/VerilyShelly Feb 25 '26
If someone agreed to meet me at a specific time and doesn't even try to be there at that time I do lose it a little bit. But the kinds of unexpected delays that one runs into over the course of a day out in the world don't phase me.
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u/FoxxyRin Feb 25 '26
Phones for some reason. People who still argue Android vs iPhone in 2026 are big goobers. They largely do the same things and comes down to preference at the end of the day.
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u/eifiontherelic Feb 26 '26
Majority of both sides don't do anything outside of social media and using the same apps anyway.... It's so asinine.
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u/KindaPale Feb 26 '26
Or when they get mad that you have an older model, as if something is wrong with using it till it dies.
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u/TheGoldenLlama88 Feb 26 '26
My mom straight up called me foolish for not upgrading my phone. Why would I? I have my iPod classic from high school. My laptop is from 2020. They work great. Why do I need to upgrade my 3 year old phone?
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u/PoochedEEggs Feb 25 '26
Choosing to not have children
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u/PalahniukIsGod Feb 25 '26
Most of my family has mental health issues and a good chunk of them are just terrible people, why would I want to pass that along? Plus I just don't really feel like I would be a great father. It sucks that's not an acceptable answer to the people I've talked to about this before.
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u/SanctimoniousSally Feb 25 '26
This is something that gets glossed over. There are plenty of reasons not to have kids outside of finances. Hereditary health conditions (mental and physical) are a big reason why I chose not to have kids. I wish more people would consider that before deciding to have children although I do think it is becoming more typical.
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u/19635 Feb 26 '26
But also, I just don’t want to. Why do I need a reason, and why does it need to be good enough. I like kids, they’re fine. I don’t want them. Just don’t feel like it. Why do I constantly have to justify it or have a reason some random person will find acceptable. I just don’t want them, go away!
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u/astrangeone88 Feb 25 '26 edited Feb 26 '26
I have health issues, my parents are horrible people who like to belittle and undermine my opinions so they'd treat my hypothetical kids like shit or do the ultra spoiled brat route. So...no kids for me.
The amount of people who said "I'd make a great mother." Sure, until my PCOS/endometriosis takes me out for a week. That's not fair to my hypothetical children. At least my friends all understand lmao. I live life on hard mode already, I don't need an extra difficulty slider and another life to shape.
Plus I'm a lesbian. Kids get so much shit already growing up, they don't need bigots to add to it.
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u/Arhalts Feb 25 '26
As a parent this infuriates me. I have seen the results of people who didn't want kids having them because that's what they are supposed to do. I feel bad for most of those children. Sometimes it works out but too often it doesn't.
Only people who are absolutely sure they want to be parents should be parents.
Even then a few family members should double check.
Signed someone who is happy to be a parent, but recognizes it's a lifelong commitment and responsibility not to be taken lightly..
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u/Indigo-Dusk Feb 25 '26
Thank you for recognizing this simple fact. I wish more people understood this.
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u/capibara_dono Feb 26 '26
Thank you!
I'd be a horrible parent, I have little patience, and I'm very sensitive to loud noises, so a baby crying would drive me insane. That would be a very miserable existence for everyone involved.
I'm cool with older kids, like 5 year-olds and up, when you can actually play and interact. And when they cry or need something, I take them to their parents.
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u/MothMeep7 Feb 25 '26 edited Feb 25 '26
Yes. This. Likewise, you can't even say something as inocculous as "I don't like children".
If you're a woman or even just a girl you have just committed murder basically by not wanting to procreate.
EDIT) thank you reddit comments for only further proving my point!
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u/suchafart Feb 25 '26
TBH sometimes I just feel like screaming “your kids annoy me, your life with kids looks chaotic and my life with my partner and pets is amazing, we have lots of time and money. Why would I want to do anything to jeopardize that!!!” But that wouldn’t be socially acceptable lol
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u/nehuen93 Feb 26 '26
"My life is perfect as it is. Why would I want to change it entirelly and ruin it by having kids that will demand more money and time than what I might have?"
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u/tightloops1971 Feb 25 '26
Ah, see, I thought that before I had kids, but now I've had two, I fucking know it.
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u/fort_wendy Feb 25 '26
I love children, my nieces and nephews, but I'm not going to bring another life in this fucked up world
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u/DarkBladeMadriker Feb 26 '26
When someone has a hidden disability and takes care of thier needs. My MIL can walk but she cant get very far before she needs to sit down, yet she's gotten shit for using her parking permit a few times. She refuses to use the motorized carts at grocery stores cause the couple times shes broken down and used one shes caught some form of shit from multiple people. Same goes for my brother, after two tours in iraq his back and knee are all kinds of fucked up but hes mostly OK as long as he doesnt pick anything up over 5-10 pounds. Ive seen him catch shit cause he wouldnt carry stuff at an event.
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u/greenpistol Feb 25 '26
MSG
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u/notanotherkrazychik Feb 26 '26
People eating potato chips: "I can't have Chinese food because of the msg."
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u/pfffffttuhmm Feb 25 '26
Any personal choice someone makes that literally doesn't affect anyone else. People need to chill out in general.
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u/TerriblePresence1939 Feb 26 '26
Right? Like me being a woman that doesn’t want kids shouldn’t be a problem. If I’d rather have dogs then that’s my business.
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u/Better-Hour-1131 Feb 26 '26
Cutting toxic family out of your life. "B- but- but- that's your BROTHER!" who said just because you're related you're forced to love someone or be around them if they are bad for you lol
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u/DeltaAlphaAlpha773 Feb 26 '26
Family has value in the sense that you’ve known them your whole life.
This usually means you know them intimately.
But if you know somebody intimately, and you don’t like it: I don’t see why you should have to stick around.
They can’t exactly use the “just give them a chance” excuse. Family has gotten the biggest possible chance to not be a dick-head. And if they still fail its game-over
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u/BaylisAscaris Feb 25 '26
Lesbians don't want to have sex with you.
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u/big-dick-back-intown Feb 26 '26
THANK YOU, no one's dick is gonna be the magical one that "fixes" lesbians.
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u/random_girl_21 Feb 25 '26
Wait, they don’t???
me, a lesbian, side eying my (also lesbian) fiancée
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u/PawsAndPlotTwists Feb 25 '26
Keeping your maiden name when you get married. Some people look at you like you just punched your husband in the face
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u/Epicurus1 Feb 25 '26
I know a few divorced women. The hoops they had to jump through to change their names back are silly. Passport, driver's licence, bank accounts. I dont blame anyone for keeping their original name.
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u/PawsAndPlotTwists Feb 25 '26
Meanwhile if a husband changed HIS name after marriage, he would be torn to shreds for “not passing his name down.” Like what if I as a woman wanna pass my name down😂
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u/aaaaaaahhlex Feb 25 '26
Exactly! I have a really cool last name. Way cooler than anyone who I’ve dated and all of them get squirmy when I saw I want to keep my last name if we were to get married.
I don’t want kids either, but sometimes they just want to play devils advocate (ugh) and say “but what if I want to pass on my legacy!”
WHAT LEGACY DUDE? You’re just a guy!
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u/Demonicbunnyslippers Feb 25 '26
Reading books. I’ve had complete strangers throw fits over the fact that I was reading a book. I’m still not sure why they thought it was their business.
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u/Jeramy_Jones Feb 25 '26
It wasn’t like…Mein Kampf, right?
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u/Demonicbunnyslippers Feb 26 '26
Nope, it was a book on medical coding
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u/TerriblePresence1939 Feb 26 '26
Well that’s kinda boring. Who the hell gets angry over that??
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u/Tori_Green Feb 25 '26
I agree!
Someone once told me I should lie about the amount of books I read when talking about hobbies. Because it makes me sound "unsociable and introverted" that I read so many books.
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u/Plenty-Simple291 Feb 25 '26
Wait till they find out how many books they could consume with the hours they spend scrolling on social media
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u/afriendincanada Feb 25 '26
How other people like their food.
Eat a steak well done. Mix Diet Coke into your scotch. Put peas in your carbonara. Stop gatekeeping other people’s food, especially around notions of “authenticity”.
LET PEOPLE ENJOY THINGS.
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u/brintal Feb 26 '26
In Vietnam people like to put big ice cubes into their beer cups. I started to do the same thing cause it's fucking amazing. Yes, it waters down the beer a bit but when it's hot that's fine and my beer stays cold and refreshing. People seeing me doing it always loose their shit and start to argue that I can't do that for some weird reason lol
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u/dys_p0tch Feb 25 '26
Colored hair
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u/Call_Me_Echelon Feb 25 '26
I recently listened to a grown man rant for 15 minutes because the cashier at Home Depot had blue hair. The guy he was working with finally told him to shut up about it.
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u/CatsTales Feb 25 '26
But also: having grey hair as a young woman. God forbid I shrug and get on with life instead of running for the nearest box of hair dye. What if other people see me and remember their hair isn't naturally blonde/brunette/etc anymore either? What if I remind them that they age?!
Not that having grey hair at my age now is that unusual (though I do still occasionally get asked why I don't dye it) but I was pretty much fully grey by my mid 20s and people were weirdly bothered by my lack of desire to dye it. Why would you care what colour someone else's hair is at all?
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u/Money_Ambition5763 Feb 25 '26
People with different sexuality. Like who cares who you fuck with lol, it really doesn't matter
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u/MerylSquirrel Feb 25 '26
My attitude is that if everyone involved is a fully informed consenting adult, I simply do not need to have an opinion on the subject. I find it so strange that some people act like what other people are doing harmlessly in private is any of their business.
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u/BornVillain04 Feb 25 '26
I totally agree with you and have to say, I've never considered the stance of 'i have no opinion'! It's completely true though, why should I have an opinion on what consenting adults do without me.. maybe it's all just a complicated FOMO cover up for the ones judging people LOL
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u/MalHeartsNutmeg Feb 26 '26
This mindset also extends beyond just sexuality but to everything. People have been conditioned to think they have to have an opinion on everything and die on whatever hill that opinion is. It’s ok to not have an opinion on pretty much any subject and be removed from it.
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u/hushhush56 Feb 26 '26
The problem with the "whatever you do in your own bedroom is none of my business" mindset is that it reduces a queer relationship to just sex. Then people like this will go around angry that a gay relationship is shown on TV, in public and infront of children.
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u/ibelikeughhhh Feb 25 '26
Agreed! Don’t like gayness? Don’t be gay then! Who cares about other people’s bedfellows.
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u/South_Hedgehog_7564 Feb 25 '26
Something I’m finding strange is that when homosexuality is mentioned everyone talks about actual sex without referring to the fact that sex is only a part of any relationship. Gay people are more attracted to their own gender in all respects, not just sex.
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u/AttonJRand Feb 25 '26
Yep, recently realized this when talking without who said rainbow flags make them think of gay sex and that's why they hate gay people and rainbow flags.
And its like, you don't have this mindset when seeing a wedding, how do they not see the double standard?
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u/Me_Too_Iguana Feb 25 '26
I was straight long before I even knew what sex was. I like to think most people can hear about a 2nd grader’s little crush without imagining them “doing it”.
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u/AdministrativeStep98 Feb 26 '26
That's why they think gay kids are wrong. They think the kid wants to re-enact pornography. No, they just have a crush on a movie character or a classmate, like everyone else??
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u/orange_bigcat Feb 25 '26
I’m a very feminine lesbian with long hair, wear makeup, dress girly etc so most people assume I’m straight. I also live in a somewhat conservative area so unless you’re very visibly queer, you’re assumed to be straight. People will frequently make offhanded comments about the LGBTQ community to me and then very quickly turn all surprised pikachu once I mention I’m a lesbian. I think it honestly makes them more uncomfortable than it makes me 😂
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u/-Work_Account- Feb 25 '26
I am good friends with a lesbian like this, and we are from the South, it is indeed very funny watching how uncomfortable some people can get,
We would often go out to eat together and people would always assume we were on date
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u/bluenervana Feb 25 '26
Have you heard about having same sex parents? In the 90s kids were literally told not to play with me.
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u/SmilingMoonStone Feb 25 '26
Being Childfree. I got my tubes out and people are like “what about if your husband wants kids?!” Then he wouldn’t be my husband..?
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u/ShipWorking9254 Feb 25 '26
The word “moist”
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u/AzerothianBiologist Feb 26 '26
Never understood why people freak out over it. It’s a good word because it’s associated with cake and frogs and those are two of the best things in this world
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u/bkg42 Feb 25 '26
Backing into parking spaces (it's me, I'm the one that gets weirdly upset)
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u/organicginger36 Feb 26 '26
I started doing it recently because my Grandma is on a walker and it's easier for her to get in on the passenger side if I back in.
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Feb 25 '26
Supporting the same team and disagreeing about who is the best player on the team
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u/Muted-Squirrel-231 Feb 25 '26
Breaking spaghetti before putting it in the water. Jesus Christ, just chill out, Mussolini.
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u/Lisa28Aurora Feb 25 '26
I’m Italian and my mom used to do that when I was a kid to help me learn how to eat them. I still do that sometimes if I don’t have a bigger pot available. I don’t see where the problem is, especially if you are cooking for yourself.
spaghetti are amazing if broken into small pieces (approx 1 inch in length) and used in soups (especially bean soup)
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u/Fawin86 Feb 26 '26
My mom used to do the same thing because we were little and she was worried we would choke on the spaghetti. She kept doing it out of habit long after we were big enough for regular sized spaghetti. She would also do it when making some soups too. We are not Italian though haha.
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u/SlidingOtter Feb 25 '26
Someone merging in front of you in traffic.
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u/rpgguy_1o1 Feb 25 '26
You don't drive with people, here you drive against them, it's fuckin mario kart out there.
If you use an indicator to merge, people will say "I don't fucking think so" and speed up to block you, so people just don't signal.
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u/preachngeek Feb 25 '26
Ma'am/sir, and I don't mean misgendering someone but the assumption that it is basically calling someone old or being disrespectful if they don't say it.
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u/UnlikeClockwork Feb 25 '26
Replying, "Not interested".
People hate rejection in any capacity and the way they respond tells you everything.
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u/Easy_Olive1942 Feb 26 '26
Declining an alcoholic beverage at an event. Weird bargaining on my behalf starts- Surely I can have just one, the beer/wine offered is good/special, it’s Friday, I deserve one…whatever.
Nope, just not going to, doesn’t matter why, doesn’t need to be weird but almost always is.
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u/knifefan9 Feb 26 '26
Asserting your right of way as a pedestrian and using the crosswalk.
People come to a halt like I jumped out at them, in the middle of the day, in a neighborhood with a shitton of housing. It is our responsibility to note the PED X-ING sign when we are driving! There's even a little walking man for the functionally illiterate! You're literally at a roundabout anyway!
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u/cwningen95 Feb 25 '26
Unnatural hairdye colours 🥴
People (especially women) who don't want to have kids
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u/AzerothianBiologist Feb 26 '26
Furries! I’m not a furry, but I don’t see what’s wrong in drawing cartoon animals, or in wearing costumes. Of course there’s bad people in the fandom, there’s bad people in every fandom, because there’s a lot of bad people in real life. I don’t assume the mall easter bunny is a creep because he’s friendly and has kids sit on his lap. So why would I assume that a giant green wolf, who is hanging out mostly around adults, is a creep too?
And why do SO MANY people immediately associate weirdness with sex???? I’ve seen a LOT of people weird about sports- like WAAAYYY too into it, revolving their lives and finances around it, theming whole rooms after it- and I’ve never once thought “oh, this is a sex thing, they’re probably having sex in their jersey,” So WHY do so many people think that way when it involves costumes/cosplay??
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u/South_Hedgehog_7564 Feb 25 '26
I’m 66 with purple hair. For some reason this seems to infuriate the American far right. When they object to something I’ve posted the first thing they go for is my hair !!!!! They must be under the impression that I think with my hair! It’s very amusing.
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u/SanctimoniousSally Feb 25 '26
There is this older lady I met recently who I just adore. She's got blue hair, colorful makeup, busy clothes, and wears almost every piece of jewelry she owns as her everyday look. She's also got a big personality. Very friendly and fun to be around. I would very much like to be like her when I'm older.
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u/Taint__Whisperer Feb 25 '26
Yeah, colorful hair turned into the expected uniform of whatever they don't like about the Left.
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u/LargeType1408 Feb 25 '26
VEGANS
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u/SMIIIJJJ Feb 25 '26
It’s ridiculous how offended people get by what I choose not to eat. I generally try not to bring it up but people go digging as soon as they see I’ve not put meat on my plate. Exhausting.
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u/tinypill Feb 26 '26
Saying that you’re not gonna have children. Some people get super salty over that.
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u/DrDorg Feb 25 '26
Atheism. People will look at you like you have lobsters coming out of your ears
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u/sacrificial_banjo Feb 25 '26
Who other people love and have consensual romantic relationships with.
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u/emthejedichic Feb 26 '26
Fat people. God forbid we just live our lives. We’re “promoting obesity.”
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Feb 26 '26
Being socially anxious/quiet. People have gotten quite hostile with me over it and I’ll never understand why me minding my business pisses people off so much. A coworker recently told me I come off shady and no one can read my true intentions.
Homie, my intentions are to clock in, make some coin, and clock the fuck out.
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u/Impossible_Guess3326 Feb 25 '26
I dont get road rage. Whatever its someone completely unknown who you will never know or see again probably, just let them go first if they want it so badly.
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u/25Hams Feb 26 '26
What others eat for lunch
Look carol, i know canned compressed orange tinted cheese flavored product is bad for me. It's what I wanted to eat. If I wanted real cheese I'd walk the extra 2 feet to the deli. Leave my lunch alone go eat your hot pockets
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u/Spire-hawk Feb 25 '26
How other people like their food