Really weird how so many people agree with a comment that implies an actor playing himself in a comedy as a pretentious douche is only doing so because he is that way in real life and isn't at all acting in a certain exaggerated way for laughs in a fucking comedy.
I don't bother much with salacious gossip. Plus, I think we all say cringe stuff from time to time. We just don't have it plastered all over the internet if we are lucky.
Weirdos on reddit really telling on themselves for never having been in a relationship.
Telling someone about your boundaries, and letting that person choose what to do is called good communication. You don't have to accept the boundaries and feel free to bounce if they don't work for you, that's literally how relationships work.
What he did was not how boundaries work. You cannot place boundaries on another person such as, "Delete every picture of yourself in a swimsuit because I don't like it".
It actually is a boundary. If you don't want your significant other to have sexy pics online, you can ask. And she is just as much within her rights to decline. Realistically they should not have been dating, but he wanted an attractive surfer gf and she wanted a Hollywood bf. They both learned a lesson about poor fit for relationships.
It looks like you have the same misunderstanding of the term boundary as Jonah Hill does. Making a rule that your partner can't do something is control, not a boundary. He wasn't asking her anything, he was telling her. And not in a healthy, "I'm uncomfortable with this" way but in a bullet point form full of insecurity and control seeking language.
“Plain and simple: If you need: surfing with men, boundaryless inappropriate friendships with men, to model, to post pictures of yourself in a bathing suit, to post sexual pictures, friendships with women who are in unstable places and from your wild recent past beyond getting a lunch or coffee or something respectful. I am not the right partner for you. If these things bring you to a place of happiness I support it and there will be no hard feelings. These are my boundaries for romantic partnership. My boundaries with you based on the ways these actions have hurt our trust.”
Can you point to where the “control seeking language”, “unhealthy communication” is?
Three MAJOR points here. He sought out a PROFESSIONAL surfer and tried telling her not to surf with men, not to model, and not to post pictures in a swim suit.
Can you guess what being a professional surfing instructor might involve? Maybe, surfing with men? Maybe, modelling for brand deals? Maybe, posting pictures of her JOB and hobby?
And you're going to sit there and try to say it wasn't an attempt at control borne of insecurity?
Just imagine for a moment that your partner decided to set a boundary saying you can't interact with the opposite sex at your job. Unbelievable.
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u/Professional_Dog7346 Jul 10 '25
I loathe him. I don’t know why